So called Friends

Corvs Queen

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So in 2004 I moved from small town Hicksville to Austria to be with my now husband. S and I had known each other since the beginning of 6th grade and she always considered me her best friend. At least that's what she told everyone. I on the other hand made it very clear that I had no "best" friend as I am more the type that stays to myself. While I do have a lot of people that I like to share company with, it's not like my social being depends on being with them. I am content with who I am and I actually prefer time to myself as I have yet to find someone (other than the hubby) that shares the same views and values as me. Anyway, when we met in 6th grade (this is when the county elementary schools integrate into one middle school) she knew all kinds of things about me. She constantly followed me, called me and asked me to stay over at her house. This was driving me totally batshit. If and when I do develop friendships I usually call the shots and like things to be on my terms. She knew all about my dance accomplishments. At that time I had been a clogger for 7 years. I had preformed all over the south and even thought of making it my career. So I continued be "stalked" by S until eventually in 8th grade I gave up and said that there must be something to her. So I agreed to stay over and all that jazz. We became friends but as I have said it's not like I am super close to my "friends". She asked me to teach her some basic clogging steps so I agreed. I even choreographed a small routine for her. She would always want to dance together when I stayed over and so on. Well fast forward to out Senior year. I teach her a soft shoe Irish routine that I want to preform at the state fair and her I and placed 2nd in our devision with it. YAY! That was that and she never showed any more interest in clogging or irish for that matter. I move to Austria so naturally I had to give up preforming and competing. It was hard because as you know clogging is really starting to sprout it wings in America. People are no longer thing of it as a hillbilly thing to do. This is thanks to All That and Brandon Norris. I competed with the guys for years. (They were on America's got talent and So You Think You Can Dance.) Clogging isn't a thing here and I have nowhere to take me talent. So I have given it up for the most part and I kills me. I ache for it. I even dream of it at night. I miss it sooooooooo much. So S and I are still in contact and she informs me that she's on a competitive clogging team now. Every time we talk that's all she talks about. And she always like "Do you know so and so?" and I'm like "Yeah!" I mean, I've competed most of my life of course I know those people because they are the same as me. They love clogging and they live, eat, breathe, sleep clogging. She constantly talks about it even tough I have made it obvious that I don't want to. That it makes me uncomfortable. It's not jealousy that I feel when she talk about it. It's more the fact that I feel in some strange ways she wants to take my place and be me. I know that that sounds ways boastful but she's the type of parasitic person that has to latch onto someone to validate her exsistance. She has no character of her own. I KNOW who I am but it bothers me to no end. Sorry for the long read/rant. Just had to get that off my chest. Thanks Specktra!
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~Valerie~

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I understand where you're coming from but I really don't think she means any harm by bringing it up over and over again. I think you should write her a long e-mail explaining how it hurts you to hear about it since you can't really participate where you're at right now, and maybe she'll get the point. Or just quit talking to her if she annoys you that much.

As for the other stuff, it sounds like she's just always admired you very much and wanted to be like you, which I'd take as flattering if I was you. Believe me I know it can be annoying but just try to think of it in a positive way.

Anyway I hope you feel better getting all that off your chest, sorry if you didn't really want a reply to it all but I figured I'd give my 2 cents!
 
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