I can see you really love him but... why would you want to be in a relationship where you're not allowed to go out and have fun? I think you either need to end this relationship or sit down and talk to him about this. The rules should apply to both people: if he is allowed to go out with his friends, you should be allowed to go out with yours. In fact, there should not be any 'rules' about going out at all. You are allowed to do whatever you want in terms of going out with friends. He doesn't own you. He's hid horrible things from you (personally I would have dumped him after the MySpace profile incident), and that is not a good basis for any relationship. I appreciate that you want to be honest with him, that is good, but it's also concerning that you are scared of his reaction. All you did was go out and have a good time on your birthday--you didn't cheat on him, hurt him or anything like that. You should be allowed to go out with friends without feeling guilty about telling him later. You need to talk to him about all of these restrictions and control he has over you if you want to be in a healthy relationship.