mindlessgapgirl
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...but i need to get it off my chest and get some opinions so that i can make sure i am making the right decision.
my mom and dad got divorced when i was 4 (im 24), and both remarried...they remained friends and attended each others weddings, my mom supported my dad through his second wife's terminal cancer, my dad supported my sister and i and my mom when my mom's second husband went crazy and started stalking us after they split up...he helped us move, she babysit his daughter, etc...they were friendly and made it really easy for my sister and i to have a somewhat normal family (i suppose).
i should mention that my stepsister was actually adopted - my stepmom was really her great aunt, and she was given up (along with her 4 other siblings) because her parents were alcoholics and drug addicts.
two years ago, my dad met a new woman who is 10 years older than he is, doesn't work, etc. she promptly moved into his house, and then convinced him to sell it within 3 months of their "relationship". She makes innappropriate and rude comments in front of family about my sister and I, and things escalated to the point last Christmas where she disinvited us for the day, since we said we would only come for breakfast, before going to my Grandparents house (a yearly tradition) for Christmas dinner. She actually screamed at us never to call the house again, called us ungrateful brats, etc...use your imagination, she said it. She also called my mom names, and said there is no reason why my dad needs to even speak to my mom, let alone get along with her, and he agreed!!! So we didn't go, and haven't been to their house in over a year. Anyways...THEN we find out through someone who knows them, that my dad actually SENT my stepsister back to her "real" parents....im not kidding. He decided that she would be better off, at 16 years old, living back with them...2 hours away. Who does that sort of thing? She already lost her mother, now her father is sick of her too???? It's disgusting and Im embarrassed to be related to him.
So the issue here...is that they are getting married in a month and have invited my sister and i (we don't want to go)...I need some thoughts on this. My feeling is that if he cant respect my mother (who both my sister and i are very close to), we can't respect him...and i can't support a wedding to someone who has caused this huge change in him...but Shawna (my sister) and I look like the bad ones for not going...any thoughts on the subject? How would you deal with this? Talking to him doesn't help, he says that its none of our business how he feels towards my mom and that what happened last year is in the past and we need to get over it
my mom and dad got divorced when i was 4 (im 24), and both remarried...they remained friends and attended each others weddings, my mom supported my dad through his second wife's terminal cancer, my dad supported my sister and i and my mom when my mom's second husband went crazy and started stalking us after they split up...he helped us move, she babysit his daughter, etc...they were friendly and made it really easy for my sister and i to have a somewhat normal family (i suppose).
i should mention that my stepsister was actually adopted - my stepmom was really her great aunt, and she was given up (along with her 4 other siblings) because her parents were alcoholics and drug addicts.
two years ago, my dad met a new woman who is 10 years older than he is, doesn't work, etc. she promptly moved into his house, and then convinced him to sell it within 3 months of their "relationship". She makes innappropriate and rude comments in front of family about my sister and I, and things escalated to the point last Christmas where she disinvited us for the day, since we said we would only come for breakfast, before going to my Grandparents house (a yearly tradition) for Christmas dinner. She actually screamed at us never to call the house again, called us ungrateful brats, etc...use your imagination, she said it. She also called my mom names, and said there is no reason why my dad needs to even speak to my mom, let alone get along with her, and he agreed!!! So we didn't go, and haven't been to their house in over a year. Anyways...THEN we find out through someone who knows them, that my dad actually SENT my stepsister back to her "real" parents....im not kidding. He decided that she would be better off, at 16 years old, living back with them...2 hours away. Who does that sort of thing? She already lost her mother, now her father is sick of her too???? It's disgusting and Im embarrassed to be related to him.
So the issue here...is that they are getting married in a month and have invited my sister and i (we don't want to go)...I need some thoughts on this. My feeling is that if he cant respect my mother (who both my sister and i are very close to), we can't respect him...and i can't support a wedding to someone who has caused this huge change in him...but Shawna (my sister) and I look like the bad ones for not going...any thoughts on the subject? How would you deal with this? Talking to him doesn't help, he says that its none of our business how he feels towards my mom and that what happened last year is in the past and we need to get over it