JULIA
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On Wednesday my boyfriend asked me to spend the night knowing I had a class the next day that started at 10:30 AM. I agreed but soon regretted that decision Thursday morning after I suffered through him snoring and hogging the bed all night. I was tired, I didn't feel well and I was in a bad mood. I decided I wasn't going to attend my morning class and that I'd catch a few more hours of sleep in the hopes of being awake during my other two classes that day.
When he heard this, he flipped out and bluntly said I wasn't allowed over during the weekdays and then he continued to get ready in another room. He works night shifts on weekends and I work day shifts which makes it impossible for us to get together. I asked him when he expected us to see each other, he didn't respond so then I asked if he was ignoring me and again he didn't respond. He left for the day and that was that.
For the last 2 hours we've been arguing through emails. At one point he mistook something I said and assumed I was breaking up with him. He made no attempt to save the relationship and was like, "if that's what you want then sure." He said a lot of hurtful things and can't decided who's to blame for his sour mood.
I guess we've made up, I don't really know, but he's still refusing to let me come over during the week and he said he doesn't really know when we'll see each other but I can't ever visit if I have school or work the next day (which would be every day of the week). I told him if he has an issue with my work ethic that he should go about it in a more constructive way because as it stands, he's punishing me. I shouldn't have to wonder when I am going to see my boyfriend again. He doesn't see things my way so he's back to shutting me out and refusing to understand where I'm coming from.
I wonder if he wants to break up with me but can't bring himself to do it? He shows no genuine concern, at least in my eyes, regarding not being able to spend time with me.
Ugh. Last week was my birthday and he spoiled me, he went all out and threw me a party and now this week this is how he acts? Being 20 sucks! Not one day has been great for me. I'm sorry this is so long but I have no girlfriends I can talk this over with.
Thoughts?
When he heard this, he flipped out and bluntly said I wasn't allowed over during the weekdays and then he continued to get ready in another room. He works night shifts on weekends and I work day shifts which makes it impossible for us to get together. I asked him when he expected us to see each other, he didn't respond so then I asked if he was ignoring me and again he didn't respond. He left for the day and that was that.
For the last 2 hours we've been arguing through emails. At one point he mistook something I said and assumed I was breaking up with him. He made no attempt to save the relationship and was like, "if that's what you want then sure." He said a lot of hurtful things and can't decided who's to blame for his sour mood.
I guess we've made up, I don't really know, but he's still refusing to let me come over during the week and he said he doesn't really know when we'll see each other but I can't ever visit if I have school or work the next day (which would be every day of the week). I told him if he has an issue with my work ethic that he should go about it in a more constructive way because as it stands, he's punishing me. I shouldn't have to wonder when I am going to see my boyfriend again. He doesn't see things my way so he's back to shutting me out and refusing to understand where I'm coming from.
I wonder if he wants to break up with me but can't bring himself to do it? He shows no genuine concern, at least in my eyes, regarding not being able to spend time with me.
Ugh. Last week was my birthday and he spoiled me, he went all out and threw me a party and now this week this is how he acts? Being 20 sucks! Not one day has been great for me. I'm sorry this is so long but I have no girlfriends I can talk this over with.
Thoughts?