Mygreatlove
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I got engaged and married at 18. My husband is 20. We've been together 3 1/2 years. I'm happy
What age did you lovely ladies get engaged?
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omgjkjklolz
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I completely understand how you feel, I've been wanting to get engaged for a while now. My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over three years, I'm 18 now, and I think he might propose for christmas.. We've been saying we're going to get married on 8/9/10, which will be our four year anniversary<3 I still think we're young, but if you're sure, then you're sure!
cindiaz
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I got engaged at 25,we were together for about 3 months and 2 months after we got married in the court or whatever is called then after 3 months was the church wedding(something very very small because we didn't have money) and we have been happily married for 11 years and have a wonderful son.
persephonewillo
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17. married at 20. (getting divorced now)
supernova
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I have been with my now husband since we were 16. We have been together since highschool. He proposed when we were 23 and we were just married this year, we are both 25. We wanted to both finish nursing school and start our careers and buy a house before getting married. We have been together now for 9 years and I still love him as much or more after all this time.
cupcake_x
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I understand how you feel. I'm only 18 (my boyfriend of almost 3 years is 24) and sometimes feel that desire of getting married, playing house, that sort of thing.
What I remind myself is that the marriage would be a lot more healthy and fulfilling if we were more financial stable and a little older/wiser. You might not be able to enjoy each other and your marriage if you are constantly having to work to pay bills, or are in school full time, or whatever it is you may be doing.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do!
What I remind myself is that the marriage would be a lot more healthy and fulfilling if we were more financial stable and a little older/wiser. You might not be able to enjoy each other and your marriage if you are constantly having to work to pay bills, or are in school full time, or whatever it is you may be doing.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do!
liciouslilly
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I was engaged at age 30 and will be getting married when I turn 32.
MAC_Pixie04
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This is my honest opinion so please don't take offense.
You're too young. You guys have been together for 3 years; but 3 years ago you were 13. You're not going to be the same person as an adult that you were as a teenager. And if you guys get into that serious of a relationship, you're destined to grow up into a twosome and not as individuals, which is really stifling to personal growth. I got engaged last Christmas. I was 21, and we're planning a long engagement because we both know that we are not 100% ready to get married (never lived together, finances aren't steady yet, lots of things we want to experience together and as individuals etc). We've been together for 3 and a half years. We probably won't get married for another year and a half.
I think you like the idea of an engagement and the idea of a wedding more than the responsibility that comes along with committing to another person so deeply. I think that if the two of you are really as in love as you say you are, then you'll love each other enough to let one another grow up and mature before taking such a big jump.
You're too young. You guys have been together for 3 years; but 3 years ago you were 13. You're not going to be the same person as an adult that you were as a teenager. And if you guys get into that serious of a relationship, you're destined to grow up into a twosome and not as individuals, which is really stifling to personal growth. I got engaged last Christmas. I was 21, and we're planning a long engagement because we both know that we are not 100% ready to get married (never lived together, finances aren't steady yet, lots of things we want to experience together and as individuals etc). We've been together for 3 and a half years. We probably won't get married for another year and a half.
I think you like the idea of an engagement and the idea of a wedding more than the responsibility that comes along with committing to another person so deeply. I think that if the two of you are really as in love as you say you are, then you'll love each other enough to let one another grow up and mature before taking such a big jump.
pinkiecharm
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hi i am 18 and my boyfriend is 26 we have been talking about engagement for ages now but because im going to university in september we have decided to wait a while longer, we have though decided that we will get enaged this year and then have a long engagement
My timeline:
Started dating boys seriously at age 14
By age 18 had 4 ask me to marry them. I just laughed! I was far from ready.
Graduated college at age 21.
Seriously considered becoming a nun between age 20-26. Spent weekends at convent. No guys. Aaaah. lol No makeup either! Eeek! Eventually returned to the world!
Started dating husband in June, age 27
Engaged in May, age 28 (he wanted to get married by fall, but I insisted on a year's engagement)
Married in May, age 29
This May we celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary.
Everyone is different by the age they mature, what their plans are, what they are ready for. Cultures and even location make a difference. For example, I live in the US. A lot of women around where I live are highly educated and have a tendency to marry late because we first go to college, then for our master, doctorate, move, start our careers, experience various dating and independence by living in apartments of our own or with friends. It was an important time to find yourself, grow up, mature...because we are always doing so and in the 20's I think we do the most transitioning from adolescence to adulthood...not by age, but by experience. But I also know a lot of people who married their high school beaus and right after graduation, had children, have happy lives. Either situations the divorce rate is way too high, so my only suggestion is imagine yourself without your mate and a few kids on your hands...how will you handle this and raise a family and balance a job or career? You will be spending your lifetime as an adult....enjoy being young for a bit longer, even if that means engagement, but a long one. It is a hard question to answer. Everyone is so different!
Started dating boys seriously at age 14
By age 18 had 4 ask me to marry them. I just laughed! I was far from ready.
Graduated college at age 21.
Seriously considered becoming a nun between age 20-26. Spent weekends at convent. No guys. Aaaah. lol No makeup either! Eeek! Eventually returned to the world!
Started dating husband in June, age 27
Engaged in May, age 28 (he wanted to get married by fall, but I insisted on a year's engagement)
Married in May, age 29
This May we celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary.
Everyone is different by the age they mature, what their plans are, what they are ready for. Cultures and even location make a difference. For example, I live in the US. A lot of women around where I live are highly educated and have a tendency to marry late because we first go to college, then for our master, doctorate, move, start our careers, experience various dating and independence by living in apartments of our own or with friends. It was an important time to find yourself, grow up, mature...because we are always doing so and in the 20's I think we do the most transitioning from adolescence to adulthood...not by age, but by experience. But I also know a lot of people who married their high school beaus and right after graduation, had children, have happy lives. Either situations the divorce rate is way too high, so my only suggestion is imagine yourself without your mate and a few kids on your hands...how will you handle this and raise a family and balance a job or career? You will be spending your lifetime as an adult....enjoy being young for a bit longer, even if that means engagement, but a long one. It is a hard question to answer. Everyone is so different!
Debi you were such a heartbreaker! 4 proposals?! hee hee!
and i cant believe you almost became a nun! and it is so sweet that you and your hubby have been together 19 years now!! Well, one guy meant it and one guy meant it but had a lot of growing up to do. Everyone really expected us to get married and he even called and asked me for a date the minute he heard I got engaged (that exact night!). How tacky is that? Just shows I made the right choice. One I didn't like enough and one was going in the service and really just wanted to say he had a wife at home to write to and maybe a kid to show off. Well, neither happened, which is a good thing. He lost his life in Iraq, sadly. He was a great guy, but too desperate to get married for all the wrong reasons. I waited for Mr. Right! And yes, went through the aspirant stage of becoming a cloistered nun for a few years, spending weekends and talking to and experiencing convent life (on various levels) until one fateful day when I was driving to the convent and passing by people who were touring historical homes in June and heard myself say "I want to do that. But I can't. I HAVE to go to the convent." Actually, I did not have to go. I had no pressure from anyone either way. I pulled over to the side of the road with my mouth gaped open and when I did get there, it was my last time! 1 year later I was dating my future husband! And our favourite thing to do is tour historical homes. He even proposed to me on the grounds of the Olde Manse in Concord, in front of a bunch of people. Good thing I said yes! lol Really funny and fateful the way things work out!
MamaLaura
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I got engaged when I was 18, during my senior year of high school, because we were pregnant. He wanted to get married, and I just thought it made sense. I didn't love him but thought it was best to try for our son's sake. We got married a couple months before the baby was due. The marriage lasted 6 weeks.
I got engaged again a year later, at 19, but we didn't get married until I was 21. That marriage also didn't last. I'm 24 and divorced again.
I got engaged again a year later, at 19, but we didn't get married until I was 21. That marriage also didn't last. I'm 24 and divorced again.
marajode
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Oh, HG, you soooo make me smile.
I got officially engaged at 19. unengaged at 19.
re-engaged at 22. Un-engaged at 22.
re-engaged at 25. It finally stuck the last time. I got married to my high school sweetheart when I was 27.
You could say I was gun shy. I am kind of indecisive.
(that, and I had a lot of divorce in my family. I realllly wanted to be sure. eek)
I got officially engaged at 19. unengaged at 19.
re-engaged at 22. Un-engaged at 22.
re-engaged at 25. It finally stuck the last time. I got married to my high school sweetheart when I was 27.
You could say I was gun shy. I am kind of indecisive.
(that, and I had a lot of divorce in my family. I realllly wanted to be sure. eek)
all the men that proposed to me were drunk at the time
marajode
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Bold=Amen
This is a great post.
I met my husband and "fell in love" when I was 13. I didn't marry him until I was 27, or was it 28 (holy sheep. I should know that without counting backwards)
I really wanted to make sure. As hard as the three break ups were, I can't tell you how much they were worth it.
I knew on the day I married my husband how lousy I felt without him. I knew how lousy cheating on him felt. I knew what it felt like being without him, because of my actions. He knows how bad it is without me.
I knew dating other men sucked in comparison to him.
I'm so glad I waited.
That was best for me, and him.
This is a great post.
I met my husband and "fell in love" when I was 13. I didn't marry him until I was 27, or was it 28 (holy sheep. I should know that without counting backwards)
I really wanted to make sure. As hard as the three break ups were, I can't tell you how much they were worth it.
I knew on the day I married my husband how lousy I felt without him. I knew how lousy cheating on him felt. I knew what it felt like being without him, because of my actions. He knows how bad it is without me.
I knew dating other men sucked in comparison to him.
I'm so glad I waited.
That was best for me, and him.
You crack me up!all the men that proposed to me were drunk at the time
katred
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Well, I think in the late bloomer stakes, I have everyone beat. I got engaged when I was 37. Still not married, still not close to getting married... I think my mother's worried she's going to die waiting to see it actually happen. I honestly never came close to getting married at any time before I was with Dom. He'd been married before and had determined that he didn't want to get married again... But I'm just that charming, I guess
I always liked the idea of having a wedding some day, but I wasn't going to sell myself on a bad investment. The only person who I ever even discussed marriage with before that was my first serious (meaning lasted more than a few months) boyfriend when I was 18-19. That ended well before any real plan could be made.
There are a lot of people I know who are in pretty happy couples- there always have been. At the same time, I love the life I've lead and I think that if I'd been married earlier, I'd be divorced now. I never met anyone who made me think that I was willing to commit to being with them and only them for the rest of my life- I always had doubts. And there was never anyone who I thought I could really grow with or achieve my dreams with.
I always liked the idea of having a wedding some day, but I wasn't going to sell myself on a bad investment. The only person who I ever even discussed marriage with before that was my first serious (meaning lasted more than a few months) boyfriend when I was 18-19. That ended well before any real plan could be made.
There are a lot of people I know who are in pretty happy couples- there always have been. At the same time, I love the life I've lead and I think that if I'd been married earlier, I'd be divorced now. I never met anyone who made me think that I was willing to commit to being with them and only them for the rest of my life- I always had doubts. And there was never anyone who I thought I could really grow with or achieve my dreams with.
