doyoulikemymake
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okay I am a bit stressed out
I have a person who I thought was a friend who is insanely jealous of me to the point that it is scary. I bought a new car and got my own place and it has magnified the jealousy she already had for me for a long time. She seems to parrot everything that I say or do--if I mention I went fishing with somebody, the next time I speak to her she starts talking about how she went fishing with a friend. she does this with everything. she has become obsessively competitive about even the most trivial things
She also cannot stand to see or hear about anything good going on in my life. when things were not going great in my life and I was miserable she was all ears soaking up everything that I was saying. she was the best listener and had all the advice in the world. now that I have gained confidence from being independent if I mention anything in my life that is going good she cannot stand to hear it, she'll start to talk over me, or change the subject sometimes even pretend that she has to get off the phone at that very moment. Things have gotten to the point where she'll make indirect comments about how I am "not all of that". I simply cannot say one good thing about myself or anything in my life. she gets so jealous of any and everything that it's pathetic. once I had a new purse that I bought from the flea market and she was jealous of that! its like she cant stand to see me have anything or to even have happiness.
What really hurts me is that she has had other friends or acquaintances who have had things like a new car or their own place and she never from what I know tried to tear them down. But when I got it, she became livid and just downright nasty, mean and cruel to me. She never even visited me. I dont know why it bothers her so much for her to see me happy; why is she okay with seeing other people have things but when it comes to me she is downright furious and so damn neurotic and jealous. that's what stresses me out.
I tried my best to kill her with kindness by saying that I wish her well and will pray for her to have happiness somebody but it does not work. I know you are going to say cut her out of your life, and that is what I have been doing. But she has been spreading rumors about me and telling other people not to talk to me. I even suspect that she is listening in on conversations when I am talking to a friend that we both share (I am going to cut her out of my life too) because when I talk to her she'll bring up things that I never discussed with her. Either that or the friend is just telling her everything that I say.
I just cannot believe the extent she will go to try to sabotage me. I never thought this would cause her to feel this way at all. what can I do to not let this consume me?
I have a person who I thought was a friend who is insanely jealous of me to the point that it is scary. I bought a new car and got my own place and it has magnified the jealousy she already had for me for a long time. She seems to parrot everything that I say or do--if I mention I went fishing with somebody, the next time I speak to her she starts talking about how she went fishing with a friend. she does this with everything. she has become obsessively competitive about even the most trivial things
She also cannot stand to see or hear about anything good going on in my life. when things were not going great in my life and I was miserable she was all ears soaking up everything that I was saying. she was the best listener and had all the advice in the world. now that I have gained confidence from being independent if I mention anything in my life that is going good she cannot stand to hear it, she'll start to talk over me, or change the subject sometimes even pretend that she has to get off the phone at that very moment. Things have gotten to the point where she'll make indirect comments about how I am "not all of that". I simply cannot say one good thing about myself or anything in my life. she gets so jealous of any and everything that it's pathetic. once I had a new purse that I bought from the flea market and she was jealous of that! its like she cant stand to see me have anything or to even have happiness.
What really hurts me is that she has had other friends or acquaintances who have had things like a new car or their own place and she never from what I know tried to tear them down. But when I got it, she became livid and just downright nasty, mean and cruel to me. She never even visited me. I dont know why it bothers her so much for her to see me happy; why is she okay with seeing other people have things but when it comes to me she is downright furious and so damn neurotic and jealous. that's what stresses me out.
I tried my best to kill her with kindness by saying that I wish her well and will pray for her to have happiness somebody but it does not work. I know you are going to say cut her out of your life, and that is what I have been doing. But she has been spreading rumors about me and telling other people not to talk to me. I even suspect that she is listening in on conversations when I am talking to a friend that we both share (I am going to cut her out of my life too) because when I talk to her she'll bring up things that I never discussed with her. Either that or the friend is just telling her everything that I say.
I just cannot believe the extent she will go to try to sabotage me. I never thought this would cause her to feel this way at all. what can I do to not let this consume me?