highonmac
Well-known member
Hi Ladies. Sorry to burden you with this but I really need to talk to someone and get some advice. Before I go into detail lets explain the beginning.
My sister and I are 7 years a part and have a very weird relationship but we usually don't get a long. From my perspective she has always been the really bossy know it all sibling who put me down for every single thing. She would literally humiliate me in public.
Our relationship with my parents on the other hand is the same. I come from a family of a very alchoholic father and a mother with mental and emotional issues (due to her childhood). We (my sister and I) suffered emotional, mental and physical abuse and were at constant disagreement. Lately it has been fine....things have changed a little bit. My sister got married 3 years a go to a man she has been together for 6 months. It was love at first site I guess you can say although no body fully approved for there marriage. He was very good to her and was always romantic and the usual sappy stuff. I always figured the reason my sister got married so quickly was to get out of our disfunctional family. (I am acutally certain of this)
After they got married, the husband lost his jobs and since then has been doing little jobs here and there to make ends meet. Still everything was fine and dandy since my sister still brought in the majority of the income. Just this year in early January....my sister was let go from her job. Keep in mind her husband still is jobless (after 3 years of marriage) I gues the overwhelming stress of not having money irriated the dude and he began beating my sister blaming her for his downfalls and his unhappiness. She told me and her best friends and we told her that she should leave him. Abuse is something you should never have to put up with regardless of the situation. She said no, it was her fault, she was stressing him, he is stressed blah blah blah.....she said she wasn't going to leave him that it was just one time...2 or months have passed. Today I get a call at work that he had beaten her today, and badly. She has liek 7 cancussions and her face is swollen and her arm is broken. He told her that he will drop her off at my parents house (i live there too) for a week, that he doesn't wan't anything to do with her and that he will tell her what his decision is at the end of that week! I WAS LIKE WTF! I knew it was going to happen again. Apparently he beats her and laughs at the fact she can't defend her self. He calls her fat and ugly and says that nobody will like her if he left her!!! She is 26 I am 19....I dont know what to tell her but for her to elave him but again...she will not listen....
What adds to the situation is I am leaving with my friends and family friends fof a trip where I spent money for hotel and everything....I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DOOOOOOOO She doesn't want to tell my mom or dad because she is affraid that they will asy I told you sooo but I think otherwise. THey have changed a lot, and have become really understanding but this is something that is really stressing me out pelase help...anybody
My sister and I are 7 years a part and have a very weird relationship but we usually don't get a long. From my perspective she has always been the really bossy know it all sibling who put me down for every single thing. She would literally humiliate me in public.
Our relationship with my parents on the other hand is the same. I come from a family of a very alchoholic father and a mother with mental and emotional issues (due to her childhood). We (my sister and I) suffered emotional, mental and physical abuse and were at constant disagreement. Lately it has been fine....things have changed a little bit. My sister got married 3 years a go to a man she has been together for 6 months. It was love at first site I guess you can say although no body fully approved for there marriage. He was very good to her and was always romantic and the usual sappy stuff. I always figured the reason my sister got married so quickly was to get out of our disfunctional family. (I am acutally certain of this)
After they got married, the husband lost his jobs and since then has been doing little jobs here and there to make ends meet. Still everything was fine and dandy since my sister still brought in the majority of the income. Just this year in early January....my sister was let go from her job. Keep in mind her husband still is jobless (after 3 years of marriage) I gues the overwhelming stress of not having money irriated the dude and he began beating my sister blaming her for his downfalls and his unhappiness. She told me and her best friends and we told her that she should leave him. Abuse is something you should never have to put up with regardless of the situation. She said no, it was her fault, she was stressing him, he is stressed blah blah blah.....she said she wasn't going to leave him that it was just one time...2 or months have passed. Today I get a call at work that he had beaten her today, and badly. She has liek 7 cancussions and her face is swollen and her arm is broken. He told her that he will drop her off at my parents house (i live there too) for a week, that he doesn't wan't anything to do with her and that he will tell her what his decision is at the end of that week! I WAS LIKE WTF! I knew it was going to happen again. Apparently he beats her and laughs at the fact she can't defend her self. He calls her fat and ugly and says that nobody will like her if he left her!!! She is 26 I am 19....I dont know what to tell her but for her to elave him but again...she will not listen....
What adds to the situation is I am leaving with my friends and family friends fof a trip where I spent money for hotel and everything....I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DOOOOOOOO She doesn't want to tell my mom or dad because she is affraid that they will asy I told you sooo but I think otherwise. THey have changed a lot, and have become really understanding but this is something that is really stressing me out pelase help...anybody