Can't believe it....totally devastated!!!

Shadowy Lady

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I'm so sorry this happened to you sweetie. And I agree with Erin, sometimes you need to let some anger out to get past this stage. I also don't agree that you should just pretend to be happy and grateful so you feel better :/ Btw, the same thing just happened to my friend yesterday and I was on the phone with her for hours. I understand it's hard
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Hope you feel better soon, we're all here for you if you need us
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purrtykitty

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I am so sorry. I cannot begin to understand what you are going through. I hope that you heal soon, but until then, I pray that you have the love and support of your family and friends to get you through this time.
 

cazgh

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Am really so very sorry for you - big hugs from us in the UK. Can't imagine what your going through or how hard its going to be to get through this.

Hopefully being able to talk about it on here might help in a small small way...

Much love
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foxxylatina07

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Oh my God I just read what happened to you and I am so sorry for your lost. I understand that you're upset and all but dont blame God have faith in him because he's the only one that knows why this happened. I know that this is not what you wanna hear but it makes me sad when something bad happens and people point the finger at God like its his fault and its not.
When I had my miscarriage I didnt blame him at all. I just had faith in him and didnt questioned him at all. Just let mother nature take its course and everything will eventually fall into place. I wish you were here so that I can give you a big hug and tell you that everything's gonna be alright.
May God heal your hurting heart and mind and give you the baby you want. Time is the best thing to heal a wound trust me I know.
My heart goes out to you and your husband. ***HUGS***
 

Ursula

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Words cannot adequately express how sorry I am to hear that you've lost your precious little one. I want to say that you can rail and scream at God! He can take it and still will love you and cradle you in His arms. I pray that somehow, you recieve some comfort for your sweet broken heart. I can only imagine the anger, frustration and sense of abandonment that you must feel. I've not lost a baby in my body, but I did lose twins that I'd raised from birth to two 1/2 years. It was the most devastating thing I've ever experienced. I railed and railed at God and four years later, I'm just beginning to understand some things, though I think I'll never fully understand this side of heaven. You and your baby are precious. You are loved no matter how you feel right now. God knows, and cares and will be there for you when you are ready to recieve His love. So very Sorry! So very sorry. I know that many are saying don't blame God, but I would tell you that if that's what you feel, then freely express it. I pray though, that after you've washed through the waves of anger, your heart will begin to experience some healing and you can turn to the God who created you and made you for a very special purpose.
 

Girl about town

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Thanks Ursula, things like this really make you question your spirituality and faith i have discovered, im sure there is a greater plan out there for me and like Tish said one day it will become clear why this has happened.

Just trying to stay positive and get my body back to normal health so i can get all my Tests done and then think about pregnancy number 3 this year. Seems like a massive task ahead of me!!!
 

Ursula

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Originally Posted by Girl about town
Thanks Ursula, things like this really make you question your spirituality and faith i have discovered, im sure there is a greater plan out there for me and like Tish said one day it will become clear why this has happened.

Just trying to stay positive and get my body back to normal health so i can get all my Tests done and then think about pregnancy number 3 this year. Seems like a massive task ahead of me!!!


Yeah, I think having to question faith is a part of the journey that sucks to go through, but ultimately has value that we don't end up seeing until much later. I'm praying for you that you can begin to feel a bit more together soon and begin putting the pieces back together. I pray that some comfort will come your way at just the right moment and that you will know that God is holding you up. But know that grief is a normal part of the process and no one expects you to stay positive through it, nor should you as it's much healthier to move through that grief rather than around it.

We're here to cheer you on so feel free to vent or whatever.
 

gracetre123

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Im so so sorry...theres nothing that I could tell you that will make you feel better...I know that bcos it happend to me...I was 12 weeks and we went to the regular medical appointment and the doctor said that my baby was 8 weeks size and that it was not heartbeat....that moment that very moment was horrible..I cant even describe it!!!... I was like....no my baby its fine...maybe hes small thats all!!! I didnt belive it!! I get back to the hospital the next day for some test and yes my baby died at 8 weeks...it was very hard for me and my hubby...

Now we have a beautiful baby boy...but I always will have in my mind and heart my very first baby....

Hugs...
 

greengoesmoo

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I am sincerely very sorry for your loss, it's never easy when people are taken from us, let alone those we have not yet met. It feels like someone has intentionally stolen a huge chunk of you for a long time.

I wish you all of the best with your next attempt, and please don't get disheartened, or lose your faith.

I have personally been there, but if I am entirely honest I was at the time waiting for an abortion. My mother however has had three miscarriages, one stillborn and one child which died very shortly after birth. I am one of three who made it so to speak. This has emotionally destroyed her, she has been under section repeatedly, and now needs a full time carer.

Please for the sake of your little boy and any children you have in the future keep check on your mental health. It's times like this when small slips can occur entirely unnoticed and make big dents in your stability as a person. It's normal and healthy to grieve and for however long you need, but if you start to have other problems I implore you, please please seek professional assistance.
 

snkatha

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Oh gosh! I am so sorry to hear this. I wish you all the best and hope you can get some peace. i also wish you the best on any future pregnancy you have. I have never been pregnant but i can understand how utterly disheartening it can be. Loads of babydust to you and your partner on your next try and this time, let it stick!
 

littlepickle

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I can't even imagine how it would feel to go through this. I too want to wish you all the best and pass on my most sincere condolences.
 

reesesilverstar

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It's almost a year later, but my heart broke reading your story. I would have probably lost it if it were me. I hope you guys are doing better and it doesn't hurt so bad anymore and you have peace.

I hope your doctors figured out what was happening and you are able to carry your baby full term.
 
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