MarniMac
Well-known member
OK, so this is going to be long, but TIA to those of you who read and respond. So, about 8 months ago (a month after our daughter was born) my husband started showing his photography in a local gallery. He was frequently (on a daily or every other day basis, an hour or sometimes more, at a time) going over there to drop off his artwork, talk to the gallery manager and go to shows. I agreed to go to his first show with him when our daughter, Kelsie, was 2 months old. I sat on a couch with her and basically took care of her while he mingled and talked to people about his artwork. I noticed one girl in particular talking to him frequently, but I didn't really pay much attention to her since I assumed she worked there (she does) and I thought she was chunky and unattractive. Usually, I might get mildly jealous if I see a real hottie talking to my man a lot, hehe, but I didn't really feel threatened, just slightly annoyed that she wouldn't leave him alone. I didn't really think too much about it after that. About a month later, I came back with my husband to the gallery to drop off some of his artwork and I noticed that she acted really weird around him and me. She acted like I wasn't even there (everyone else in the gallery says "hi" to me when I come in and a lot of them make small talk) and she totally flirted with Mike...and he flirted back! In front of me no less! Still, I didn't really care, because I thought she was fat and ugly...not to mention acting like an immature school girl with a crush, which personally I think is really off-putting. I know its really shallow to call her fat and ugly, but I guess I wanted to somehow make myself feel better by putting her down. I never TOLD her I thought she was fat and ugly, in fact I have yet to speak a word to her, even though my husband interacts with her on a daily basis. So I started teasing Mike, my husband, about his "chunky new girlfriend." And he got really mad, which I thought was strange, because in the past when other women flirted with him, we would joke about it. He did admit that she flirts with him and comes onto him, but he doesn't feel comfortable telling her to back off because they have a "business relationship." Which I think is bullshit, lol. I came into the gallery a couple times more and its always the same thing...she flirts with him, tells him she wants to show him some new things and pulls him off by himself and pretends like I don't exist. I came in with him to the gallery today, after not coming in for a while, and I noticed that she dyed her hair blonde(before it was dark brown), put makeup on and lost some weight...and it was kind of creepy...like she was trying to look more like me. Anyway, the important thing is that my gut is telling me that something about the whole situation is weird, like its not just harmless flirting. Either she really has a thing for him (because this has been going on for 8 months) or they are having an affair. I don't have any solid proof...its just my intuition. I guess maybe I could just be jealous of the fact that she has the balls to throw herself at my husband in front of me, I just don't really know. I feel like there is no way to find out either, which is really frustrating. Everytime I ask my husband about it, he gets mad and he says its because he is forced to interact with her and I make him feel uncomfortable about it. I'm really bummed too because he has a huge show coming up this weekend and I was really excited to go and support him (I just bought a really cute dress for it yesterday), but now I don't even want to go, because I know she will be there hanging on him the whole time and scowling at me. I don't know how to handle this situation at all, so any advice or thoughts would be so appreciated...it feels good just to vent all of this too. Thanks guys.
