Dirty nasty old men!!! A bit of a rant..

[greengoesmoo]

So this weekend, I go to my corner shop, and it's about 9am, theres this old cunt standing there ranting on how "The youth of today, my dad smack smack" I am sure we have all heard this before so I don't need to type it out.

So I stand there patiently while he stares at me (In my pajama bottoms and hoody, yeah yeah, 9am saturday, fifteen doors from my house, it's allowed!!! ) and continues his doddering elderly bullshit.

I wait to be served at the till, and he walks past, but as he does so, pushes past me and grabs not only my arse, but thanks to my fairly skinny arse part of my cunt as well. :| I know I should have been wearing knickers under my pajamas, but that is regardless. I felt his dirty knarly old man fingers rub against my most private of parts. My pajamas are wooley and thick, but not chainmail!! Nobody would know I didn't have pants on under if I didn't tell them!!!!

I totally lost it, I managed to not hit him!! I gave him the strongest verbal abuse I could. (One of the few things I am skilled at is cussing!!) Then phoned the police as soon as I got into my house.

Whom I might add were no help whatsoever!! I spend 15 minutes retelling the story before they even ask me for a description!! The exact words I got were "We will have someone down to your house in an hour" They confirmed my address, today is monday, 12midday. I have yet to hear a whisper from the pigs.

I have two witnesses and CCTV proof from the shop of this and yet the skanky babylon couldn't care half a toss.

This isn't the first time I have had a seedy old dirtbag have a go. I had some decrepid old 50 something goth grab me by the arm and start stroking my hair only a few months ago!! (I have no issue with goths or older men, just the style of approach)

My main concern is the issue of how old I look. I AM 22, but I LOOK somewhere between 15-18. I am small and short with those teenage triangular shaped tits. (They aren't teen looking out of clothes, but because they are small, looks a lot less adult when dressed) I don't look entirely like an adult. With correct attire and make up I pass for my age, but dressed in pajamas I appear a mid/late teen. I always wonder are these worthless old pieces of garbage preying on actual children like this as well?

Basically, has anyone experienced similar problems? And how do you handle them?

I have tried the sensible police option twice now with no outcome other than "Sorry to hear you got molested by a possible peado, lot's of love The Police", all I am left with is carrying a knife, or never leaving the house without my bf, neither of which are practical.

Since living where I do now, I have seriously toughened up, I could take almost any girl my own size in a fight, but it's no use with men!!!

Mace is illegal and impossible to get in the UK.

 

[Junkie]

Yuck!

Sorry to hear about that....I definately would've socked him in the junk though!

Police here where I live are pretty good about stuff like that - and its stupid that being sexually assaulted (groping is still sexual assault!) isn't a priority to them. Unfortunately it happens a lot - my friend got groped in a packed subway twice and he was literally grinding his crotch on her ass....so nasty.

Doesn't make it ok - but you did the best thing you could. Now you're better prepared for it if someone tries it again.

I seriously thought of mace/pepper spray as well...but in a real situation, most people won't react fast enough to use it.

 

[greengoesmoo]

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Originally Posted by Junkie Yuck! Sorry to hear about that....I definately would've socked him in the junk though! Police here where I live are pretty good about stuff like that - and its stupid that being sexually assaulted (groping is still sexual assault!) isn't a priority to them. Unfortunately it happens a lot - my friend got groped in a packed subway twice and he was literally grinding his crotch on her ass....so nasty. Doesn't make it ok - but you did the best thing you could. Now you're better prepared for it if someone tries it again. I seriously thought of mace/pepper spray as well...but in a real situation, most people won't react fast enough to use it.

I know I would react quick enough to get someone right in the eyes with mace, but my concern is the legal implications after. The same with lashing out. I would prefer to see those turds get 3 months than a smack in the jaw. If you lash out, that negates being able to press charges.

 

[Boasorte]

I remember on a crowded train some guy was rubbing his nasty penis on me. When I left I kneed him in his balls and went about my day. Back then I didn't have a fancy camera phone or anything like that to take a pic, so I took care of it old school style

And sorry the cops weren't much help. My friend lives in the UK and always complains about that. I remember he told me his friend almost got mugged, but managed to fight off the attacker. When the cops came, the MUGGER pressed charges. Can u believe that shit?

 

[staceb1990]

Wow, I can't believe mace is illegal! Here you're almost expected to have it if you got to the city.
I'm sorry that happened. People suck

 

[gildedangel]

I am sorry that this happened to you! Nothing like that has ever happened to me before, but if it did I would probably attack back or cause a ruckus. It's a shame that the police don't take more notice to the problem.

 

[Machinegun_Cali]

The most reasonable thing I can think of is be aware of your surroundings 24-7. The guy is being a old nasty freak ? keep your head on a swivel and give him a stare down. He comes within arms distance break out that verbal judo and or a physical attack to defend yourself.

 

[blazeno.8]

Yeah, I've seen my share of random ass nasty men trying to get with me. I've been told however that I have this air about me that makes people think I want to beat the living shit out of them and that's probably what's kept me safe. I usually make eye contact with the suspicious ones and stare them down. Sometimes I get on the phone and pretend like I'm giving a description to someone with my exact location (well it's not pretending, but usually it's just my mom). If they're just annoying people who will give you hell if you make eye contact though, I usually have something like a mechanical pencil with a sharp tip (I love to draw) and hold it in my hands like I'm ready to go.

 

[blazeno.8]

Oh yeah, one more thing, follow up with the police. The ones down here ain't that great about some things like break ins with no imminent threat. I called them back to follow up and let the dispatchers know that if they could call me back for information like clarification of an address they could also call me to let me know if things are backed up because after a while I seriously thought that they had forgotten. They didn't like it, but too bad.

 

[LMD84]

sorry this happened to you hun. quite frankly i am surprised that you didn't hit him where it hurts! you did the right thing by calling the police when you got home. however you will need to chase them up. it's sad to say that when i have needed the police a few times they never arrive on time and when they do they have had a can't be bothered attitude

perhaps police where i am are not as good as other places?

and yes it sucks that we can't have mase in the uk. we're not allowed tazers either however i have one just in case. quite frankly i don't want to be raped and not have anything to protect myself. perhaps a rape alarm would be good - you could let it go off in somebodies face to scare them off....

but sadly i think dirty men are everywhere

 

[Skin*Deep]

one word: MACE

 

[Boasorte]

^ Honey, did u read what she wrote? MACE is illegal in the UK

 

[Curly1908]

That freaks me out!!! I was hit on a lot by older men (30+) when I was like only 10-11 years old.

 

[nunu]

OMG! I am so sorry this happened to you!! What the F?? !

 

[FiestyFemme]

Wow, I'm sorry this has happened & it seems like there's not much you can do about it. The cops there sound worthless. I'd be raising hell if that happened to me and they never showed up. It's a shame you can't carry mace. My DH wants to get me some... actually he wants me to get my concealed weapon permit so I can carry a gun everywhere. I read your post before work earlier, and on the way there, the man in the truck next to me kept staring & it was just gross. He at least looked as old as my dad. I'm 24, almost 25 in a couple weeks, but like you look, mid-late teens. I just don't know what's wrong with people! I can guarantee you though... if somebody touched me, they're getting an ass beating. I'm little, but I'd probably react before I even thought about it.

 

[Boasorte]

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Originally Posted by Curly1908 That freaks me out!!! I was hit on a lot by older men (30+) when I was like only 10-11 years old.

That's fucking disgusting. I hate HATE HATE pedophiles.
Scum of the bloody earth

 

[kimmy]

in the states; calls made to the police and fire departments are assigned a priority number usually 1-4, 1 being "GET THERE RIGHT EFFING NOW!!!" and 4 being "handle other higher priority calls first." i'd assume things are the same or at least quite similar in across the pond. because you're an adult and the man didn't come at you in an aggressive manner, the call you placed was probably assigned a low priority. blame the dispatcher for that, not the cop. he doesn't assign calls their priority numbers he just responds to what his computer tells him to respond to first.

anyway though, there's all kinds of creepy old dudes hanging around everywhere you go no matter what. i'm mean and have an "aggressive aura" so i don't see much trouble anymore. i did when i was younger, but i've grown into a pretty mean chick so i'm safe when it comes to that situation. i'd knock his block off. if you do get physical in a situation like that, wait for the cops and then tell them what he did and say you felt threatened. they'll interview witnesses and get the tapes from the store's camera. those records will be exhibited in court if charges are pressed.

that's wacky that you can't carry mace in the united kingdom. a good alternative is to carry your keys in your hand, each key pointing out between your digits if you don't feel safe. if someone steps to you and you're scared or feel threatened; scratch them the eff up. even if they run after that, you've got dna.

 

[Boasorte]

^word. DNA is key
I learned that from Law and Order heehee

 

[LMD84]

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Originally Posted by kimmy that's wacky that you can't carry mace in the united kingdom. a good alternative is to carry your keys in your hand, each key pointing out between your digits if you don't feel safe. if someone steps to you and you're scared or feel threatened; scratch them the eff up. even if they run after that, you've got dna.

yes it's very silly that we can't have mace here

i do the key holding trick though when i am shutting my store on my own when it's dark and walking to the bus stop. and sometimes early morning too!

 

[greengoesmoo]

I'm really glad I'm not alone in attracting dirty old men!!
Thanks for your advices.

I spoke to a male friend about this, his reaction was to quietly escort me into his kitchen and slip a stanley knife into my hands.. I took it, and left it in my tool kit with my screwdrivers and hacksaws. I just couldn't do it. I actually felt more scared being handed it than any dirty old man has made me.

I felt really on edge all the way home with it, I felt paranoid and I swear my body language was giving away I was up to something.

I think perhaps I just need to mentally toughen up as well as physically, and learn to lash out when I need to. I guss it's a bit like impotence! lol

I am now carrying a bottle of chilli sauce with me, one with an easy open flip lid and a nice wide neck.

It makes me feel a LOT safer knowing if I NEED to I could throw it right in thier eyes, won't blind but it's certainly going to sting! I also considered nail varnish remover and verious other things I have once gotten in an eye and gone "OMFG NOOO" over.