user11
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HI!!!
I was reading "He's just not that into you" and I realised that it's true that when a man wants you, he calls you and see you, he finds you. Here's an excerpt:
I totally agree with it. I realised that every time I asked a guy out, it was useless. Sometimes they gave me excuses, another times we hang out, but none of them turned into a relationship. They always gave me excuses at the end.
And my question is, have you ever had a serious relationship with a guy that you have pursued¿¿
I was reading "He's just not that into you" and I realised that it's true that when a man wants you, he calls you and see you, he finds you. Here's an excerpt:
[FONT='Arial','sans-serif'] I spent my life making things happen for myself. I worked hard for my career, and was quite aggressive about it. I called people, made appointments, asked for favors. I took action. But now Greg is telling us that in this situation, we are supposed to do absolutely nothing. The guys get to pick. We're just supposed to put on our little dresses and do our hair and bat our eyes and hope they choose us. Why don't you just tie my corset too tight so I can faint in front of some man who'll scoop me out of the way just before the horse-drawn carriage runs over me? That'll get his attention. [/font]
[FONT='Arial','sans-serif']Really, in this day and age, the hardest thing to do for many women, particularly me, is nothing. We like to scheme, make phone calls, have a plan. And I'm talking about more than just making sure our hair doesn't frizz. Most women who date, I would guess, don't have men throwing themselves at them every night of the week. Sometimes there's a long stretch during which nobody's asking us out. So when we see a guy that we feel might be a romantic possibility, it's even harder for us to take a backseat. That opportunity might not come back again for a long time. [/font]
[FONT='Arial','sans-serif']But guess what: My way? Has sucked. Hasn't worked at all. I've never had a successful relationship with a guy that I've pursued. I'm sure there are many stories out there to the contrary. But for me, those guys end up getting back together with their ex-girlfriend, needing to take some time for themselves, or going out of town for business. Usually it doesn't even get that far. They usually just don't ever return my phone call. And let me tell you, that didn't make me feel very in control of anything. [/font]
I totally agree with it. I realised that every time I asked a guy out, it was useless. Sometimes they gave me excuses, another times we hang out, but none of them turned into a relationship. They always gave me excuses at the end.
And my question is, have you ever had a serious relationship with a guy that you have pursued¿¿