I'm not really 'friends' with any exes but occasionally chatter with the ones that don't live around here on aim. Well one is technically an ex while the others are people I've been 'involved' with or dated briefly.
My fiancé understands that I had a brief thing with a male friend of mine and after I sat him down and explained the situation he wasn't totally OK with it, but was OK with it enough to where I could still talk to and be around said friend even though he doesn't particularly like the guy [but loves his roommate lol].
But whats weirder is right before [and I mean RIGHT BEFORE] my fiancé and I got together, I was screwing one of his roommates. Nothing serious and we were all adults about it, including after I moved in with them, and its OK that I'm friends with that person since he knew all about the fling from the beginning. I think because it was a close friend and someone he knew he was better apt to handle it and realize there was nothing there but sex. We both still love our ex-roomy to death and wouldn't think twice about living with him again since there wasn't any weirdness to begin with about the situation.
Now onto MY end of the situation.
I would like to say I have no problems if he talked to girls he dated, but yeah like thats going to happen. I'm insecure about the fact that this total hottie that I see girls checking out all the time really wants to marry me lol. I'm ok with his co-workers that are girls and have no problems whatsoever with them. Its when its girls that I don't know calling him and basically stalking him when we would go to shows. Or I remember one time vividly a chick friend of his and her bf had came over to hang out and we were drinking and she kept saying 'I love Will, he's so great', things like that, and made me really uncomfortable. I asked him not to invite her over anymore. And there was this girl that kept calling no matter how many times my fiancé and I told her not to. And another girl at shows that basically stalked him while we were there. The last one got her just deserts.
Enough of my rant lol.
In the end, I think it's all up to the parties involved to know about any situations ahead of time before they pop up. If you try to hide the fact that you're hanging out with an ex, or seeing them, it might really hurt your SO. If you're honest, they can't really put your head on a stick right?
Plus, in my infinite 23 yrs of wisdom, every time I've been honest with someone it hasn't backfired on me. Yet.
Oh and I'm half-asleep since I just woke up so if none of this makes sense I am so so sorry lol.