Getting a RESTRAINING ORDER on roommate

[babiid0llox]

Aaaw... babe this is horrible.

Remember to stay strong and that your safety should always comes first.

Keep the documentation going, even over the smallest sh** she tries to pull. Whether it's a few words or w/e, cause every little bit of evidence helps.

Also when she invited those 5-6 guys over + her friend, did she even consult you and your friend/normal roomie? Or at least one of you? If she didn't (which I'm guessing is what happened), she has no right to do that as the house is jointly leased by the 3 of you.

If you do decide to confront her in any way, shape or form, make sure you have backup. At least one person. And I'm not talking about them on the phone, or 'on their way'. You need them there with you, as macslut said a LOT of damage can be done within the time frame of the police/backup getting there.

I see that you've started to take some of your valuables out of the house, try to keep the bare minimum of your belonging within that house. She can't damage what she can't access.

Also continue with the restraining order no matter what, as the 'chickabit**'

(haha love the name) as proved she is crazy on more than one occasion. And being drunk does not alter people's true colours, it shows them.

Babesz stay safe!

Try not to let her put you through anymroe sleepless nights.

 

[ms_bloom]

Oh Brittni, I totally agree with Macslut on this one. It's just not worth the hassle and stress and potentially much worse things to keep fighting this one. The longer you stay, the longer she wins! She sounds like a completely evil, psychotic person and I would be scared to leave my stuff around her much less be physically around her.

You sound like you have taken every reasonable course of action in giving her the benefit of the doubt, and now no one would ask you to continue doing so. Get yourself out of there, ask the police to escort you, maybe file the restraining order so there is an official report, and get some help from your equivalent of Australia's Rental Tenancy Agency in getting out of your lease. Even though your landlord said no, in these situations I am sure there are ways to get out of the lease if it is unsafe.

Please keep us updated on your situation ((hugs))

 

[ratmist]

Can you get a restraining order considering she's a named party on the lease? It's her home too. Get careful legal advice because rental situations can be tricky.

If it were me, I'd just move out.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Please, please, please don't go the revenge route. Beyond karma, which may or may not exist, she'd have a pretty good case against you. Do you really want to chance her looking like a victim?

 

[Divinity]

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Originally Posted by ratmist Can you get a restraining order considering she's a named party on the lease? It's her home too. Get careful legal advice because rental situations can be tricky. If it were me, I'd just move out.

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She can't move out as her name is on the lease and she's already tried to get out of it. If she moved out, she would still have to pay rent on top of paying another rent for wherever she moved to next. Leases are a binding legal contract and hefty fines and consequences come with breaking them.

 

[Divinity]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark Please, please, please don't go the revenge route. Beyond karma, which may or may not exist, she'd have a pretty good case against you. Do you really want to chance her looking like a victim?

I totally agree. It's really not worth it. Waste of time and energy on someone that doesn't deserve it, esp. with all the other crap going on to keep her away from you.

 

[crystalclear]

Not a good situation but it is worth pursuing and enforcing legally as it sends the message that you're serious, and gets the problem officially documented in case it's needed in the future. If you're still worried about what she/someone connected to her might do if possible have someone you trust with you since people like that are cowards and that might put them off or atleast give you an extra witness to the harrassment. I hope this gets sorted for you soon.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Leases are legally binding, but they can be broken. The bottom line is that a landlord wants his/her money and minimal damage done by the tenants. If you can find someone to take over the lease, it should be fine. There should be a clause somewhere about subletting.

Legally, if she gets a restraining order, there must be a clause for that somewhere in the books. While I don't think this is normal, somewhere in the history of rentals, this has had to happen before.

 

[SkylarV217]

When she spoke to a lawyer initially she was told it is possible to get a restraining order on a roommate. The other girl would have to move out, and would still be responsible for her part of the rent.

I think it would work pretty much the same was as a wife getting a protection order from a husband... Since they live in the same house, he would legally have to move out, but would still be responsible for bills.

 

[rbella]

I have to say, the more I think about it, the more I am worried. Brittni, I'm afraid if you are able to get a restraining order, that won't be more than a piece of paper to this nutbag.

If she is crazy, which it clearly sounds like she is, she won't care and would be even more pissed. I'm afraid of what might happen to you. I am really worried about you and your situation. My mother works in law and if you need me to get her advice on this situation, let me know.

I have a feeling she would tell you to sit down with the landlord, explain your situation and see if he would let you out of the lease. Or, perhaps, you could find someone to sublet your end?

I am just really concerned for your safety if you go the restraining order route.

 

[duckduck]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark Brittni, some of it is immature drama, but the threats are not. If you have to present your case, I'm sure a lawyer would advise you on it, but in case one does not, stick with the fact she threatened you multiple times for no reason.

Dead on. Threatening to injure or kill someone is not protected under free speech. In fact, it is quite illegal, and if it is resulting in you living fear it is absolutely unacceptable. Personally, if I could not break the lease (like in your situation) I would take legal action to get myself out of the situation - be it getting a restraining order against her or getting the landlord to break the lease. Man, woman, roommate, lover, or stranger - no one has any right to threaten your life and make you feel unsafe.

 

[Ms. Z]

I for one would never tell you to work things out with this PsychoBitch, because honestly, I feel you should dump that other chick you call a “friend” too.

What a horrible situation, I feel so bad for you. This has got to be the worst bad roommate(s) story I have ever heard. How the hell does that PsychoBitch keep a job (you don’t have to answer this)?

You definitely need to speak w/a lawyer; it’s possible that if you leave the roommates can take you to court for your share of the unpaid rent.
Also, you have to find out that if you sublet, do you have to admit to the new tenant what these 2 a**holes are like.

Good luck, I hope that you keep safe and resolve this problem quickly.

*Honestly.....after this situation is over w/the PsychoBitch, you should dump that “friend” of yours, she has not been supportive nor loyal and has only added to that bad situation (Wait so that she won’t go against you while you are trying to resolve this matter).

P.S. Like the other said, remove ALL your stuff from that home, they are capable of destroying everything you own.

 

[Brittni]

Hi everyone. I've read every post and just want send out major thanks to all those supporting me and giving me advice.

For people telling me to make sure I am legally aware of what can go on, thank you. I would never go into anything without as much knowledge and preparation as possible because working at a law office and common sense has taught me this. I did speak with a lawyer and researched Wisconsin laws a bit before deciding to do the temp. restraining order. As Skylar said, the lawyer advised me that I can have her physically removed from the house and ordered to stay away from me. As for the lease, she is legally bound to it (just as I am..and for the record, I have talked to the landlord and he won't let me out, only to sublet and then I'm still liable for any damages they cause -- not cool) so she will have to pay rent until the landlord lets her off the lease or evicts us all, whatever. We also had spoke with the advocates at the center that does the TRO's and sheriff's before we went to file to be safe.

Today we went to the courthouse and got the TRO (Temp. Restraining Order) I haven't had so much anxiety in a while, but luckily is was rather easy. A lengthy process, but worth it. I am freaking out now because I know she's going to be pissed as is my "friend" but I don't care. Even if the TRO doesn't hold up when we have court on Sept. 8th, I at least know they get the message they can't be doing this kind of stuff. It's sickening. And I need to make sure that my car and more important myself are safe. Her cousin's house is 3 houses down and full of boys who obviously know where we live. So I'm worried she'll just stay there and yell stuff, blah blah. However it says in the TRO that even if she has a 3rd party (our roomie, my "friend" for example, or her mom, or her cousin, or whatever) contact me that is violation and she faces $1,000 fine or 9 months in jail. I actually hope she's stupid enough, once served, to try and text or IM me. I'm pretty sure that'd make the restraining order stick.

Also -- this really peeves me. I have...err...had?.... a 4 ft pinwheel. The colored things you stick in the ground and they twirl with the wind. I had it placed by our steps by our house. Well, mom and I drove past today on our way to drop a copy of the TRO off at the Police Dept. and noticed IT'S GONE!!! I'm 95% sure she's the one who took it. Why is she still doing stuff, touching my property, when I'm not there? Nails in the coffin...

I know my "friend" is gonna be so pissed, too, but I don't care. She's going to say it's drama. It's not. It's this girl continuing to mess with my mind and property to continue on this harassment. It's me ENDING this because no one should be treated this way and for "having my back" she hasn't had it ONCE. I could go a lot more into detail about this, but it's just not worth it. I will suggest to my "friend" that she stays the hell out of court, though.

I am staying safe and haven't been back to the house since.

 

[rbella]

Good luck, Brittni. I'm really worried about you. Please make sure that as many people as possible around you know her name, phone number, etc. I think that would be best for you and your safety.

Also, screw your "friend". If she doesn't get why you are doing this, then she isn't much of a friend. Please check in here with us regularly to let us know you are ok. I'm really thinking about you a lot and keeping you in my thoughts.

 

[MACLovin]

Good for you! I hope this stupid psycho hooker gets the message and learns to have some respect for other people.. sounds like she needs a swift kick to the forehead, but we'll leave that up to the next person she tries to screw with.

I think you did the right thing, so who cares if this other girl is pissed at you? It's YOUR safety she threatened so you did what you had to protect yourself, end of story.

Please keep us updated!

 

[Lauren1981]

this bitch is crazy. i can understand living with crazy ass people and that's what sux about living with ppl in general. even your bestest friend in the world can turn into a different person when you're living with them but it's always a risk you take moving with people you don't know. i would see if the landlord could maybe let you out of the lease and you move in with your mom. the only reason i say that is because it almost sounds like you have two people against you because your "best friend" really isn't doing anything to help the situation.
you could get a restraining order but since she's on the lease i think legally she would have to be ordered to get out of the house and THEN the restraining order can be put on her.
it's f'd up situation but talking it out with her would be like talking a f'ing wall so that's pretty much out of the question. and it'd be so pointless. you can't handle children on an adult level, ya know?
i would just say either you get out or you use all this evidence you have against her to get her out
sorry ur going through this

 

[Lauren1981]

okay i didn't read brittni's NEW response until after i posted mine. my bad. lol! i still feel the same but it seems you've already handled the situation. good luck with everything. your "friend" isn't a real friend anyway because not once has she been there to your defense or tried to diffuse the situation.
you'll be okay ;-)

 

[MzzRach]

Let us know how you are doing - I agree with rbella on this - your safety and wellbeing are absolutely the first priority. Please, please stay safe.

Take care & again, I am so sorry you are going through this.

XO

 

[chaut_01]

oh my freaking gosh! i hope everything works out for you in the end. that girl is a banana with a couple.. okay ..scratch that TONS of nuts in her head! what a fruity girl! anyway, be strong and hopefully things will go your way.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Your friend is not your friend anymore and is an idiot. A decent human being, no matter how she feels about either party, would acknowledge that those threats are fucked up.