Have U Ever Thought About Other Women???

[Dahlia_Rayn]

I think women are beautiful creatures, but I've never been sexually attracted to a woman. I can admire a woman's face, her eyes and smile, her soft curves, but it's all absent of anything sexual. I appreciate a woman as an art form. I've even been kissed by a girl, and while pleasant, it didn't do that whole butterflies in my stomach thing that I get when I'm kissed by a man.

It's kind of weird, because it actually is far more of a turn on for me thinking about two guys together then it is for me to think about two women together, or me with another woman. I agree with chocolate goddess that sexuality is far more complex and fluid then people admit to, or let themselves experience.

Also, if a woman ever comes along that revs my engine in a sexual way I have full permission from my husband to explore that part of my sexuality. But yes, men are cheating!

 

[chocolategoddes]

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Originally Posted by Dahlia_Rayn I think women are beautiful creatures, but I've never been sexually attracted to a woman. I can admire a woman's face, her eyes and smile, her soft curves, but it's all absent of anything sexual. I appreciate a woman as an art form. I've even been kissed by a girl, and while pleasant, it didn't do that whole butterflies in my stomach thing that I get when I'm kissed by a man. It's kind of weird, because it actually is far more of a turn on for me thinking about two guys together then it is for me to think about two women together, or me with another woman. I agree with chocolate goddess that sexuality is far more complex and fluid then people admit to, or let themselves experience. Also, if a woman ever comes along that revs my engine in a sexual way I have full permission from my husband to explore that part of my sexuality. But yes, men are cheating!

I completely agree with you.

I also think it can be hot for two guys to be together (depending on the guys). I don't know why.
Most girls I know shriek and freak out if they see two guys makeout, but I think it's sorta hot. :/

 

[Rennah]

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[MissAlly]

Yes,ma'am!

 

[Mac_Lust]

I totally think women are beautiful. It just all comes down to what you really like and how far you want to go. Ive had a threesome and it was fun but it just wasnt really my thing. I think that having a threesome made me realize that i am not sexually attracted to women. Sure a woman might know what you want because she is a woman too ..but there is something about having a man touch you that is just so damn hot i dont have the words for it... I guess all in all... i kissed a girl and i didnt really like it lmao

 

[jackie100]

Nope, I don't really get along with most women and don't have many girlfriends in real life. To be honest, women scare me to death. Some have been mean to me, picked on me, been catty with me, tried to start fights with me, talked bad about me behind my back, to my face etc... There's nothing I find arousing about other women at all. I am actually afraid of most of them. lol

Yes, lots of women are beautiful and stunning but that doesn't make me want to be intimate or sexual with them. It would just make me feel a bit sad and it makes me wish I was as pretty as them. The only emotion beautiful/hot women evoke out of me is envy and a slight twinge of jealousy (nothing malicious) and I would try and figure out what they did to themselves to look that way. I would never want to get with them, I would just feel intimidated. Not intimidated in a "Wow she's hot I want to get with her" way but intimidated as in "Damn, I wish I looked that good"...

I mainly like to study beautiful women to see how they did their makeup and their hair and what they are wearing and try to use that as motivation to better myself.

 

[Devoted2MAC]

I totally fantasize about women. I love really feminine women. I've only been with one girl when I was 17 and we were involved for about a year. It was absolutely amazing. I love men and I've been with plenty of them but I have only had deep meaningful relationship and emotional connection with my ex-girlfriend. I'm 23 and I still struggle with my sexuality. Am I gay, am I straight, or bi? I don't know. Maybe I just haven't found the right man yet???

Any advice or comments would help.

PS: Kudos on the great topic. I love that we can talk about these types of things here and not be judged. ;-)

 

[MacNlaw]

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I agree with chocolate goddess that sexuality is far more complex and fluid then people admit to, or let themselves experience.

That is so true...no one's written here for awhile but I saw this topic and thought it was a real good one.

Personally a womens kiss does a lot more to me then a mans. I've only kissed a couple of women but all of those were great!! I've noticed the past 5 years I'm now only attracted to women, men dont do it for me anymore. Even though I've only "been with" 1 women all the way when it comes to settling down long term I picture it with another women, not a man.

Weird how that changed later in life for me, around mid to late 30's.

 

[bebs]

this is my personal belief, it is about who you are attracted to and choose to love with it doesn't matter if they are male or female, it just matters what kind of person they are at the end of the day.

when I was younger I only dated girls (I was hurt by men at a young age and wouldn't go around them or date them at all) so I would only date or look at girls, now that I'm older I have been with few men but I am deeply in love with a man, and it is his personality and traits that I love, how he makes me feel, how he treats me, that just hearing his voice makes me smile. everything about him makes me feel safe and protected. I will say I've never felt this way before about anybody else male or female so its hard to qualify it into am I bi or not. so I'm going to leave it as it is people I am attracted to and he happens to be male.

because like many posts above me I like watching and thinking about guy guy, and girl girl as well.. hmm guy girl too. I'd like to think that I am an open minded person in those areas and I hope that people just fall in love with one another not the gender or limit them selves, because you never know what you will miss out on. I would have probably missed out on the man that I love if I just said I will only be with girls.

 

[snkatha]

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Originally Posted by Dahlia_Rayn I can admire a woman's face, her eyes and smile, her soft curves, but it's all absent of anything sexual. I appreciate a woman as an art form. I've even been kissed by a girl, and while pleasant, it didn't do that whole butterflies in my stomach thing that I get when I'm kissed by a man. It's kind of weird, because it actually is far more of a turn on for me thinking about two guys together then it is for me to think about two women together, or me with another woman. I agree with chocolate goddess that sexuality is far more complex and fluid then people admit to, or let themselves experience.

I totally agree with this! Coming from a very conservative country where sexuality is something hidden(kenya) i felt very ashamed by how i would admire girls and notice them. however when i got into university and started hanging out with open minded people i soon noticed that i wasn't the only one. i kissed and went full on with a girl but i realised that i was definitely not as into it as with a man. I was detached doing it for the experiment rather like in a laboratory to see what happens. it's a weird feeling how when i kiss a girl there's no butterflies, no feeling like when i kiss a guy

anyhoo...luckily the girl i tried it with is a friend and also was experimenting, she's dated a girl since so maybe for both of us it was a revelation. she found out she's bi while i found out i was merely curious. i agree with Dahlia_rayn when she says she finds the female body beautiful like an art form, that's how i see it too. i admire women like i'd admire a good painting while with a man i really notice the details like the scent of their skin and how manly they look

. But i can certainly say i understand how a woman can become a lesbian because we ladies are certainly gorgeous to look at i think. i told my fiancee about my encounter and he said that he's be more surprised if i hadn't tries it since am so curious

I figure all inall if you're curious certainly go for it, there's no harm to try and who knows it could be a revelation

 

[snkatha]

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Originally Posted by MACATTAK For those of you who are married/in a relationship how does your significant other respond to this? Do they consider it cheating? Are they all for it? Only all for it if they are involved?

i've talked about this with my man. he's seen me kiss a girl on a dare and while he said it's hot, he says he'd still consider it cheating. i tend to agree because its still a third party in the relationship.

 

[BeccalovesMAC]

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Originally Posted by snkatha i've talked about this with my man. he's seen me kiss a girl on a dare and while he said it's hot, he says he'd still consider it cheating. i tend to agree because its still a third party in the relationship.

I would be lying if I said I was not attracted to a female. I think my man would freak out if I made out with a girl. I have always said this. I don't believe Bisexuality. I think that you HAVE TO like one sex more than the other. You cant like vag on monday and tuesday. Then on wed and friday like johnson. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to a female but I truly believe you have to prefer one more then the other. girl, I go to the strip clubs and make me it rain on dem. lol Nothing wrong with having fun just be real.

 

[Doowop]

I can only see femme women in a sexual way, but nothing romantic. The only time a female has made my heart beat faster in a non-sexual way are butches..not sure if this term is popular outside of my country, they are what other people call dykes. But I am only attracted to these women because they resemble men..

 

[Meisje]

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Originally Posted by BeccalovesMAC I don't believe Bisexuality. I think that you HAVE TO like one sex more than the other.

Alfred Kinsey created a scale (called, surprise, "The Kinsey Scale") that numbered your "degree" of sexual preference for male, female, or both. It goes from 0 to 6 - where 0 is exclusively heterosexual, and 6 is exclusively homosexual. A 3 would be bisexaul, equally attracted to males and females. Kinsey did his studies in the 1940s and it was completely revolutionary at the time.

People who study sex nowadays say it's a bit simple (as sexuality is more complex than a simple numbered scale), but I think it's still kind of cool. I do definitely believe you can be a Kinsey 3 - equally attracted to both sexes to the point where gender is not a deciding factor in choosing a mate.

 

[joygasm]

Well I am bisexual. Ever since I was about 4 years old I've been fantasizing about girls. But also, I wasn't attracted to men until i was in the 9th grade haha. But its normal I suppose. Women are beautiful.

But I like the security of a man.

 

[S.S.BlackOrchid]

I am a bisexual and look for the same qualities in both genders.

I have had one relationship with a woman for 6 months. At the time I was younger, less confident and I lived with my ultra-conservative family. I got cold-feet and left. I feel like a complete ass when I think about it because she was a smart, intuitive, caring and really hot woman and I gave that up. Makes me feel like a jerk.

 

[ladynomoregaga]

I'm bisexual, and the way that works for me is that overall, I'm more attracted to women than men. However, the men I'm attracted to I think are REALLY REALLY attractive. So it's kind of a quantity vs quality thing for me. I've had relationships with women but have never fallen in love with one, although the women I am more attracted to tend to be either androgynous or super, super femm-y. But there are always exceptions, aren't there?

 

[greengoesmoo]

From the age of about 13 I have been open to experimenting with girls

I tend to find I'm mostly attracted to black girls.

I'm a slim athletic build myself, but I don't find girls my own size sexy, I love BIG strong thighs and soft rounded bellies on girls, boobs are a bonus, but for me it's thighs. The women who turn my head are normally about 200lbs+

For me though, intmacy with women is that has always been entirely sexual, I can have female friends I put make up on with and go swimming with and women I have slept with. The times when I have attempted relationships with girls I have lost interest very quickly.

I live with my male fiancee now because I love him as well as find him sexually attractive, and I could never have both with any woman.

 

[Geraldine]

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Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC When I was a little girl (7 or 8 ), I used to look at my brother's playboys. I started to worry and think that I was gay. I was always attracted to other girls, and obviously their bodies, and I thought they were beautiful. When I was in about 9th grade, I just basically figured I was bisexual or at least bicurious. I always thought about other girls, fantasized about them, and when it came to porn I ALWAYS watched girl/girl and that was that. Anyways, I never did anything with a girl and I never actually liked a girl as to want to be in a relationship with one, but I was fantasizing about them for forever. When I met my boyfriend last year, I told him all about it. He was upset, and a lot of people might think its weird because most guys would love to see their girlfriend with another girl, he's not like that. He thinks its wrong--point blank period. I would never want to have a 3some with him because I'm an extremely jealous person. I don't have the desire to be with a woman anymore, but sometimes (like when i'm watching porn--thats the only time) I think about it. Thats as far as it will ever go.

We were separated when we were born! I was going to type all of this, but then I read and thought: This is me! This is my story!

Glad to know I am not the only one.

 

[LoveMakeup4Real]

I've thought about being with another woman, assumed all girls did but found out that wasn't true. I have gone as far as watching lesbian porn in the past, and getting extremely turned on by it lol. I haven't been intimate with a woman though. I had a bad experience as a child so that probably is still subconsciously stuck with me as an adult today. I don't know, as far as I'm concerned I'm straight. Men and women both equally piss me off