Krasevayadancer
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So Saturday was my actual birthday, and my boyfriend had a surprise party for me, and all was well. My actual birthday ended up being pretty awesome.
Sunday rolls around (this is where the fun begins...)
I call my sister at noon to ask what we were all doing for dinner figuring that they would want to go out and celebrate my birthday the day after since I spent my actual birthday with my boyfriend. My mother even tried to make me feel guilty for choosing to spend my day with my boyfriend. My sister asked where I wanted to go and I said Minado, an all you can eat Japanese Restaurant/Sushi Buffet that is half an hour from my house. I knew it would be affordable, everyone would like the food, and a half hour drive wasn't a big deal. Or so I thought...
My mother didn't want to be bothered going that "far", my brother in law didn't want to do the half hour drive, my nephew didn't want to step away from the homework he waited til Sunday evening to do, and my sister didn't care enough either way. When I expressed how upset I was over it I was told to settle for a crap restaurant in the neighborhood because it was convenient... When I declined my mother told me to pick up sushi on the way home to eat with my parents, oh and by the way she wanted me to go to the market and pick up groceries for her. Nope, wasn't going to happen...
I get home. Nobody in my family gave me anything. Not a card, not a balloon, a flower, a cake... NOTHING. Just a great big f.u apparently. Just a guilt trip because I was being unreasonable and "selfish" to want everyone to go to the restaurant of my choosing that was half an hour away by car if that.
So I had a tantrum. Full scale. Unplugged tvs, blasted loud music with the bass turned up etc. And then I broke down...
For the 2 years that I have been home since college I have not heard one kind word from my parents or sister's family. Only knocks against me. My birthday was the final straw. I wash my hands of all of them...
Am I wrong for wanting to go to this one place, for being upset that I got not so much as a card? My mother claims that my boyfriend is pitting me against them. What she doesn't realize is that she has done that all on her own. All my boyfriend does is encourage and support me. And tell me he loves me...
To clarify things, my whole family is negative and unsupportive. My boyfriend has on multiple occasions said that while he means no disrespect, it makes him furious that everyone in my family is so negative, critical, and self-serving.
I graduated from an accredited University with a high GPA, it wasn't good enough because I didn't go into pharmacy. My mother has on multiple occasions told me to wipe my ass with my B.A
I work in a large financial institution and make a very impressive salary, its not good enough because I am not in grad school right this second... Nevermind that I plan on going back in the next couple of years. And nevermind the fact that I can't afford it with all the debt I have right now from college.
I love makeup, and coming on specktra, and keeping in touch with people online. Well according to my mother that makes me superficial, shallow and stupid. Empty headed, mindless and brainless are other terms my mom has thrown my way.
My sister is no better, she is always knocking me and saying negative things about me...
Yes, the tantrum might have been too much. But what does one do when they are crying their hearts out because their family made them feel completely and utterly worthless? When one is bawling in her room while her parents ignore her and watch tv in their room.
Sunday rolls around (this is where the fun begins...)
I call my sister at noon to ask what we were all doing for dinner figuring that they would want to go out and celebrate my birthday the day after since I spent my actual birthday with my boyfriend. My mother even tried to make me feel guilty for choosing to spend my day with my boyfriend. My sister asked where I wanted to go and I said Minado, an all you can eat Japanese Restaurant/Sushi Buffet that is half an hour from my house. I knew it would be affordable, everyone would like the food, and a half hour drive wasn't a big deal. Or so I thought...
My mother didn't want to be bothered going that "far", my brother in law didn't want to do the half hour drive, my nephew didn't want to step away from the homework he waited til Sunday evening to do, and my sister didn't care enough either way. When I expressed how upset I was over it I was told to settle for a crap restaurant in the neighborhood because it was convenient... When I declined my mother told me to pick up sushi on the way home to eat with my parents, oh and by the way she wanted me to go to the market and pick up groceries for her. Nope, wasn't going to happen...
I get home. Nobody in my family gave me anything. Not a card, not a balloon, a flower, a cake... NOTHING. Just a great big f.u apparently. Just a guilt trip because I was being unreasonable and "selfish" to want everyone to go to the restaurant of my choosing that was half an hour away by car if that.
So I had a tantrum. Full scale. Unplugged tvs, blasted loud music with the bass turned up etc. And then I broke down...
For the 2 years that I have been home since college I have not heard one kind word from my parents or sister's family. Only knocks against me. My birthday was the final straw. I wash my hands of all of them...
Am I wrong for wanting to go to this one place, for being upset that I got not so much as a card? My mother claims that my boyfriend is pitting me against them. What she doesn't realize is that she has done that all on her own. All my boyfriend does is encourage and support me. And tell me he loves me...
To clarify things, my whole family is negative and unsupportive. My boyfriend has on multiple occasions said that while he means no disrespect, it makes him furious that everyone in my family is so negative, critical, and self-serving.
I graduated from an accredited University with a high GPA, it wasn't good enough because I didn't go into pharmacy. My mother has on multiple occasions told me to wipe my ass with my B.A
I work in a large financial institution and make a very impressive salary, its not good enough because I am not in grad school right this second... Nevermind that I plan on going back in the next couple of years. And nevermind the fact that I can't afford it with all the debt I have right now from college.
I love makeup, and coming on specktra, and keeping in touch with people online. Well according to my mother that makes me superficial, shallow and stupid. Empty headed, mindless and brainless are other terms my mom has thrown my way.
My sister is no better, she is always knocking me and saying negative things about me...
Yes, the tantrum might have been too much. But what does one do when they are crying their hearts out because their family made them feel completely and utterly worthless? When one is bawling in her room while her parents ignore her and watch tv in their room.