Orchid_01
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I've been with my bf for almost 3 years and just a few days ago he broke up with me. He said that he needs to be single and that he is unhappy and needs to work on himself. I never knew that this was coming. We were just making dinner with his friends, watching movies, he was saying "I love you", and we were cuddling. I was totally puzzled and asked him if all that was fake. He said "no". All this hurts so badly because it was so sudden. We only got into a fight once just a week ago and he was begging me to stay. And now hes the one breaking up with me. We only had one break about 8 months ago. He was the one that wanted the break and it didnt even last long it lasted a whole day and he wanted me back. I just feel like this break up might be the end of our love relationship.
I met up with him yesterday and he said that he wants to be friends with me first because when we first started seeing eachother we werent even friends yet. We had the same class together, liked eachother, went on one date and just jumped on the gun and were bf and gf. He said he still wanted to hang out with me as friends and that he didnt mind me hanging out with his friends or family. Actually he said that he WANTED me to hang out with his friends and family and wouldnt have a problem with that.
He also said that he felt trapped being in a relationship and that he wants to enjoy the single life. See, Im his FIRST serious gf and I think he wants to experience this single life so he can date other girls and see what its like. I mean I totally understand and I have been in more relationships and hook ups than he has so maybe he feels he is missing something. He also said that it wasnt about anything i did or about our relationship he just wants to be SINGLE!....ugh im so mad and sad bout this whole situation. I agreed to be friends with him because we had so much memories together and I rather be friends than not ever talking to him or seeing him. He is a good person and I've met some wonderful ppl through him. Its just so hard to not hold him and kiss him...I know im not going to hang out with him right away I gotta give myself sometime to heal and i guess give him time as well. Like I dont want our love relationship to end and I feel that this maybe the end of it. Even though we are going to start a friendship things are going to be so different.
Do you think it would be weird to be friends with an ex bf? what should I do?
I met up with him yesterday and he said that he wants to be friends with me first because when we first started seeing eachother we werent even friends yet. We had the same class together, liked eachother, went on one date and just jumped on the gun and were bf and gf. He said he still wanted to hang out with me as friends and that he didnt mind me hanging out with his friends or family. Actually he said that he WANTED me to hang out with his friends and family and wouldnt have a problem with that.
He also said that he felt trapped being in a relationship and that he wants to enjoy the single life. See, Im his FIRST serious gf and I think he wants to experience this single life so he can date other girls and see what its like. I mean I totally understand and I have been in more relationships and hook ups than he has so maybe he feels he is missing something. He also said that it wasnt about anything i did or about our relationship he just wants to be SINGLE!....ugh im so mad and sad bout this whole situation. I agreed to be friends with him because we had so much memories together and I rather be friends than not ever talking to him or seeing him. He is a good person and I've met some wonderful ppl through him. Its just so hard to not hold him and kiss him...I know im not going to hang out with him right away I gotta give myself sometime to heal and i guess give him time as well. Like I dont want our love relationship to end and I feel that this maybe the end of it. Even though we are going to start a friendship things are going to be so different.
Do you think it would be weird to be friends with an ex bf? what should I do?