chey
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I was going through rough times and there was this man who helped me through it. He is a kind, compassionate and sensitive person. I don't know him that well but I also sensed he could be somewhat shy and uncommunicative. He didn't talk a lot but showed care through gestures or some words. Definitely not gabby.
Were not romantically involved. More aquaintance I guess.
Anyways I don't see him anymore in person but I asked to keep in touch with him. He said sure. I wrote/emailed him at his workplace. His responses have taken anywhere from two months to six months, sometimes longer.
Eventually in one of his responses he gave me his home address and email which I assumed he was saying to write him at home. So I started to.
When I write him its every two months not every week.
He doesn't know m uch about my life, only small tidbits I share with him. Basically knows how I am progressing from my past troubles. It's not that I don't want to share, I'm just not sure if it would make him uncomfortable. With him he shares the odd tidbit with me, but not much. Otherwise his letters are basically encouragement about my past etc. His letters are short.
With the long periods of time between responses I began to wonder if he really wants me to contact him so I wrote him this.. "I do care about how you are doing. However I respect your privacy and leave it up to you to decide what you want to share with me. I hope my letters are not making you uncomfortable. If you decide you would like me to stop contacting you it's okay to tell me. I will respect your decision."
He wrote back to me one week later which is the fastest I have received correspondence from him. He said "Thank you for your letters and emails.I've been out of town quite a bit over the past few months. I don't feel particularly uncomfortable at receiving your letters. I'm happy you are feeling better and I'm sure this will continue. Good luck." He wrote some other sentences of encouragement but I can't remember them off the top of my head at the moment. Included his home address (street and city) in his recent response, but didn't include his zip code. I assume either he forgot to or thought I would know it.
All of the letters/emails I have received from him show encouragement or reassurance, short letters. I'm fine with short letters.
*The part that is bugging me and may seem senseless..*
When he wrote "I don't feel particularly uncomfortable at receiving your letters" I am guessing he is saying he is fine with me writing him? Its just the particular part that threw me off. Maybe that word confuses me?? Or just emphasizing his point to me,as in using the word particular, that he is fine with me writing/emailing.????
I'm not sure about this either.. maybe he is waiting for me to open up more to him personally, as in light personal normal everyday things and then maybe he will feel he can open up to me more? I'll put it this way. .when I knew him in person he wasn't pushy or in my face. He would never prode me alot with questions sort of let me go to him type thing. And when I did he was very good listener etc.
I know this is a stupid post but this is bugging me.
Thank you for your help
Were not romantically involved. More aquaintance I guess.
Anyways I don't see him anymore in person but I asked to keep in touch with him. He said sure. I wrote/emailed him at his workplace. His responses have taken anywhere from two months to six months, sometimes longer.
Eventually in one of his responses he gave me his home address and email which I assumed he was saying to write him at home. So I started to.
When I write him its every two months not every week.
He doesn't know m uch about my life, only small tidbits I share with him. Basically knows how I am progressing from my past troubles. It's not that I don't want to share, I'm just not sure if it would make him uncomfortable. With him he shares the odd tidbit with me, but not much. Otherwise his letters are basically encouragement about my past etc. His letters are short.
With the long periods of time between responses I began to wonder if he really wants me to contact him so I wrote him this.. "I do care about how you are doing. However I respect your privacy and leave it up to you to decide what you want to share with me. I hope my letters are not making you uncomfortable. If you decide you would like me to stop contacting you it's okay to tell me. I will respect your decision."
He wrote back to me one week later which is the fastest I have received correspondence from him. He said "Thank you for your letters and emails.I've been out of town quite a bit over the past few months. I don't feel particularly uncomfortable at receiving your letters. I'm happy you are feeling better and I'm sure this will continue. Good luck." He wrote some other sentences of encouragement but I can't remember them off the top of my head at the moment. Included his home address (street and city) in his recent response, but didn't include his zip code. I assume either he forgot to or thought I would know it.
All of the letters/emails I have received from him show encouragement or reassurance, short letters. I'm fine with short letters.
*The part that is bugging me and may seem senseless..*
When he wrote "I don't feel particularly uncomfortable at receiving your letters" I am guessing he is saying he is fine with me writing him? Its just the particular part that threw me off. Maybe that word confuses me?? Or just emphasizing his point to me,as in using the word particular, that he is fine with me writing/emailing.????
I'm not sure about this either.. maybe he is waiting for me to open up more to him personally, as in light personal normal everyday things and then maybe he will feel he can open up to me more? I'll put it this way. .when I knew him in person he wasn't pushy or in my face. He would never prode me alot with questions sort of let me go to him type thing. And when I did he was very good listener etc.
I know this is a stupid post but this is bugging me.
Thank you for your help
