DanaB
Active member
k. i need some advice. i had wrote a while ago about me and a friend of mine having differing parenting styles. while that is not a problem, the fact that she tells me that she parents the "right" way, meaning that if i don't do things her way, i'll be doing everything wrong. i think that is bullshit. i don't expect us to agree on everything. i welcome that we have differing opinions on things. but she is too judgmental and close minded. anything that i am for , she is against, no 2 ways about it. she won't even consider the fact that i could be right. she can't even agree to say that it might not be right for her family, but it could be right for mine. it's just WRONG. plain and simple.
yesterday, on some forum we belong to, she posed the question - what do you think of pot smokers? now, i'm not a smoker, but my SO is. a heavy smoker. she says that makes him a bad person, and that if he smokes, he must have "issues", whatever that means. her favourite word it "trash". she basically said that the man i love, the father of my child, is white trash because he smokes pot. who gives a shit? he goes to work everyday. works 15 hrs a day. he doesn't burn in the house or around me. so if he wants to burn a joint after a long day at work, who fucking cares? why is it her place to judge him? especially since he is my boyfriend. her best friends boyfriend. fuck her. this coming from a woman who emascualtes her husband every chance she gets. he is the one who makes all the household income, and he has to ask her when he wants to buy ANYTHING. i'm not talking just big purchases. i mean everything. i don't think that's right. she treats him like a child, and carries his balls in her purse. but that's none of my business. it's his and hers. if he's ok with that, why would i say anything? it's not my place.
but she can do whatever she wants. two years ago, my brother got his girlfriend pregnant. they were comtemplating getting an abortion, which i didn't agree with. they were both adults. he was 25, she was 34. they could have handled a baby. she already had a child. i told my friend about it, because i needed to talk about it. she went and wrote a letter to my parents, telling them that my brother's gf was going to have an abortion and that my parents needed to stop it. however, she left it anon. so my brother thought it was me that wrote it,an didn't speak to me for months. then he moved 4 days away and things have never been the same. my 'friend' told me just a few months ago, that it was her who wrote the letter. and i told her that it was ok. i forgave her. but i didn't really. it is just one more instance that her views infringed on our friendship. she had no right to say anything to my parents. it was none of her business, but she took it upon herself to judge a situation, and throw her 2 cents into it.
so i guess i wanted to see what you guys think. am i wrong? or is it possible to stay friends with someone when you have to censor every conversation? we can talk, as long as it's not about a, b, c, or d. i don't know if i want to be in a relationship like that.
what do you think? can we salvage a friendship?
yesterday, on some forum we belong to, she posed the question - what do you think of pot smokers? now, i'm not a smoker, but my SO is. a heavy smoker. she says that makes him a bad person, and that if he smokes, he must have "issues", whatever that means. her favourite word it "trash". she basically said that the man i love, the father of my child, is white trash because he smokes pot. who gives a shit? he goes to work everyday. works 15 hrs a day. he doesn't burn in the house or around me. so if he wants to burn a joint after a long day at work, who fucking cares? why is it her place to judge him? especially since he is my boyfriend. her best friends boyfriend. fuck her. this coming from a woman who emascualtes her husband every chance she gets. he is the one who makes all the household income, and he has to ask her when he wants to buy ANYTHING. i'm not talking just big purchases. i mean everything. i don't think that's right. she treats him like a child, and carries his balls in her purse. but that's none of my business. it's his and hers. if he's ok with that, why would i say anything? it's not my place.
but she can do whatever she wants. two years ago, my brother got his girlfriend pregnant. they were comtemplating getting an abortion, which i didn't agree with. they were both adults. he was 25, she was 34. they could have handled a baby. she already had a child. i told my friend about it, because i needed to talk about it. she went and wrote a letter to my parents, telling them that my brother's gf was going to have an abortion and that my parents needed to stop it. however, she left it anon. so my brother thought it was me that wrote it,an didn't speak to me for months. then he moved 4 days away and things have never been the same. my 'friend' told me just a few months ago, that it was her who wrote the letter. and i told her that it was ok. i forgave her. but i didn't really. it is just one more instance that her views infringed on our friendship. she had no right to say anything to my parents. it was none of her business, but she took it upon herself to judge a situation, and throw her 2 cents into it.
so i guess i wanted to see what you guys think. am i wrong? or is it possible to stay friends with someone when you have to censor every conversation? we can talk, as long as it's not about a, b, c, or d. i don't know if i want to be in a relationship like that.
what do you think? can we salvage a friendship?
