akcmommy
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I am having difficulty at work. I am in the midst of a conflict with someone at my work that has been there less than a year longer than me. She treats me like I am her underling and speaks to me with contempt.
She made an error, I asked her to fix it and she ran to the sr attorney to complain about me, tears and all. *I* am the one that got talked to about my demeanor. The clear chain of command was breached. She was supposed to speak to our office manager if she has any issues.
Since that confrontation, she has taken every opportunity to throw me under the bus.
2 weeks ago, we were in a meeting with one of the sr attorneys, the 3 associate attorneys and one other assistant. We had a case where the defendant called us to ask for information but did not give us an address to mail the information to. I asked if the defendant was served at home. She glared at me and said, "*I* do *my* research." She had 2 associate attorneys sitting on either side of her. All I wanted to know was if the defendant was served at work, could we mail the letter there.
The following day, I spoke with one of the attorneys and asked if I was being sensitive or if she has been snippy with me. The attorney agreed that she was snippy.
I went to the office manager and voiced my concerns about the treatment that I was receiving. The office manager suggested that I have a conversation with my coworker or she would mediate between the 2 of us. She said that she is not willing to get in the middle of our conflict.
Today, during our weekly meeting, one of the associate attorneys asked me why a case was on a different report than he thought it should be. While I was telling him, she jumped in to say that she "told" me to do it last week.
After the meeting, the attorney pulled me aside to say that he did not mean to cause more trouble than there already was between me and her. We started talking about the problems that we are having. I told him that at this point, I am avoiding her as much as possible. He suggested that the negative reaction I am receiving from her is partially my own doing.
Maybe it is. But I am pissed off. She is very two-faced. She is one way with the attorneys and another with her co-workers. She comes in late every day, clocks in, then spends 10 minutes putting her bike away and freshening up in the restroom. Because the way our office is set up, no one but me can really see what is going on. It aggravates me because our office is having to take unpaid furlough days because of the economy and she is stealing company time every day.
She has a condescending way of asking me to help with her workload when she is not doing what she is supposed to do. Example: we are both supposed to return voice mail messages. There are 2 types, type A and type B. I am trained to return both types and she is only responsible for type b. She sent me an email suggesting that because I am not pulling my fair share of type B, they are a week behind. I started keeping a log of how many messages she is returning and how many I am returning. For June, out of 100 type A messages and 47 type B messages, I returned 40 messages and she returned 9. 9!
She has the audacity to mention that I am not pulling my weight?
ARGH!
It is obvious that management is not going to do anything. I can't find another job right now. There is NOTHING else out there.
Any suggestions?
She made an error, I asked her to fix it and she ran to the sr attorney to complain about me, tears and all. *I* am the one that got talked to about my demeanor. The clear chain of command was breached. She was supposed to speak to our office manager if she has any issues.
Since that confrontation, she has taken every opportunity to throw me under the bus.
2 weeks ago, we were in a meeting with one of the sr attorneys, the 3 associate attorneys and one other assistant. We had a case where the defendant called us to ask for information but did not give us an address to mail the information to. I asked if the defendant was served at home. She glared at me and said, "*I* do *my* research." She had 2 associate attorneys sitting on either side of her. All I wanted to know was if the defendant was served at work, could we mail the letter there.
The following day, I spoke with one of the attorneys and asked if I was being sensitive or if she has been snippy with me. The attorney agreed that she was snippy.
I went to the office manager and voiced my concerns about the treatment that I was receiving. The office manager suggested that I have a conversation with my coworker or she would mediate between the 2 of us. She said that she is not willing to get in the middle of our conflict.
Today, during our weekly meeting, one of the associate attorneys asked me why a case was on a different report than he thought it should be. While I was telling him, she jumped in to say that she "told" me to do it last week.
After the meeting, the attorney pulled me aside to say that he did not mean to cause more trouble than there already was between me and her. We started talking about the problems that we are having. I told him that at this point, I am avoiding her as much as possible. He suggested that the negative reaction I am receiving from her is partially my own doing.
Maybe it is. But I am pissed off. She is very two-faced. She is one way with the attorneys and another with her co-workers. She comes in late every day, clocks in, then spends 10 minutes putting her bike away and freshening up in the restroom. Because the way our office is set up, no one but me can really see what is going on. It aggravates me because our office is having to take unpaid furlough days because of the economy and she is stealing company time every day.
She has a condescending way of asking me to help with her workload when she is not doing what she is supposed to do. Example: we are both supposed to return voice mail messages. There are 2 types, type A and type B. I am trained to return both types and she is only responsible for type b. She sent me an email suggesting that because I am not pulling my fair share of type B, they are a week behind. I started keeping a log of how many messages she is returning and how many I am returning. For June, out of 100 type A messages and 47 type B messages, I returned 40 messages and she returned 9. 9!
She has the audacity to mention that I am not pulling my weight?
ARGH!
It is obvious that management is not going to do anything. I can't find another job right now. There is NOTHING else out there.
Any suggestions?