ndn-ista
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Happy Holidays Everyone!!!
Okay, here goes:
I have been dating a guy for about 8 months, give or take. Although I have not been the most honest in the relationship, I have always come clean when put on the spot. He has also done his share of crap to me, but we still really care for each other and that is what keeps us going. However, I feel like it is starting to be too much crap to put up with. The most recent drama has been this:
I have gone through his phone (VERY wrong of me I know) and came across some pornos he had downloaded on his phone. I confronted him on it, and told him that it was disgusting. He initially got mad that I went through his phone, which again I know I was wrong for. Second, he said that he gets bored at work and it's not a big deal. Okay, fair enough it is a guy thing I guessed. Then, I saw naked girl dancing in a one video, almost like it was a home video, so I said well what about this one, it looks like someone is holding the camera, it does not look like a porno from a website. The name of that clip was, let's call it "A". He said that he found that video on a website and just saved it on his phone, again I said okay.
A few weeks later, I was just checking his email, an email account that I created for him. I check it here and there and noticied that his phone contacts were downloaded on the email. I was looking at his contacts (probably wrong of me again) and came across a person saved with the same username as the clip, "A" with a phone number.
A few days later, I confronted him again on that particular clip, "A". I was honest with him and told him that I went through his contacts and came across a person with the same username saved in his phone, a local area code btw. I asked him do you know her? He said this girl used to prank call him years ago and sent him the video. I asked if he ever met up with her or saw her in person, he said no.
I am sorry, I want to believe him, but it seems too weird. A girl prank calls you moaning and what not for years, she lives in the same neighborhood as you and she knows your name and info and then sends you a video or rather posts a video on a website, with her naked and dancing. He keeps telling me I am making a big deal about it and that it was years ago etc etc. Okay, fine again I am trying to be resonable and understanding, but I have to question, if it was years ago, then 1. why do you still have that video in your phone? and 2. why do you still have her #. If I was a guy in a relationship, I was have deleted that a long time ago, because simply who is she to you?
Do you think I have a right to get upset and question this or think I am making a big deal out of it. Please give me advice ladies and gents!
Thank you!
Okay, here goes:
I have been dating a guy for about 8 months, give or take. Although I have not been the most honest in the relationship, I have always come clean when put on the spot. He has also done his share of crap to me, but we still really care for each other and that is what keeps us going. However, I feel like it is starting to be too much crap to put up with. The most recent drama has been this:
I have gone through his phone (VERY wrong of me I know) and came across some pornos he had downloaded on his phone. I confronted him on it, and told him that it was disgusting. He initially got mad that I went through his phone, which again I know I was wrong for. Second, he said that he gets bored at work and it's not a big deal. Okay, fair enough it is a guy thing I guessed. Then, I saw naked girl dancing in a one video, almost like it was a home video, so I said well what about this one, it looks like someone is holding the camera, it does not look like a porno from a website. The name of that clip was, let's call it "A". He said that he found that video on a website and just saved it on his phone, again I said okay.
A few weeks later, I was just checking his email, an email account that I created for him. I check it here and there and noticied that his phone contacts were downloaded on the email. I was looking at his contacts (probably wrong of me again) and came across a person saved with the same username as the clip, "A" with a phone number.
A few days later, I confronted him again on that particular clip, "A". I was honest with him and told him that I went through his contacts and came across a person with the same username saved in his phone, a local area code btw. I asked him do you know her? He said this girl used to prank call him years ago and sent him the video. I asked if he ever met up with her or saw her in person, he said no.
I am sorry, I want to believe him, but it seems too weird. A girl prank calls you moaning and what not for years, she lives in the same neighborhood as you and she knows your name and info and then sends you a video or rather posts a video on a website, with her naked and dancing. He keeps telling me I am making a big deal about it and that it was years ago etc etc. Okay, fine again I am trying to be resonable and understanding, but I have to question, if it was years ago, then 1. why do you still have that video in your phone? and 2. why do you still have her #. If I was a guy in a relationship, I was have deleted that a long time ago, because simply who is she to you?
Do you think I have a right to get upset and question this or think I am making a big deal out of it. Please give me advice ladies and gents!
Thank you!