kabuki_KILLER
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Well, my theory on the whole family situation you're in is that the dad has issues and is traumatized from this past woman that left him. He feels the need to control your mom, in hopes that this will keep her at bay.
The eldest daughter is the real culprit here. She was old enough at the time to make some broken sense of what happened between her original mother and her father and uses this to her advantage. He will bend at whatever she wishes to keep her from leaving him as well (becoming a pushover to her), and of course the young son copies his sister's example because he was too young to know any better. Then it all eventually became a habit.
Some people just need a scapegoat, someone inferior to them so that they can believe they're not the trash they really are. That's that man's problem. He's quite broken and it's beyond your ability and responsibility to fix him. It's not within your mom's ability either, considering she approaches the situation so passively. The only reason she's in this situation now is because she's accepted it. Since she's been with him that long, she probably isn't familiar with being treated right.
NOTE: When you two leave tht place, be sure to file restraining orders on that girl and her father. I have a feeling he may get more depressed/hysterical and the girl will blame it on the two of you and try to retaliate.
The eldest daughter is the real culprit here. She was old enough at the time to make some broken sense of what happened between her original mother and her father and uses this to her advantage. He will bend at whatever she wishes to keep her from leaving him as well (becoming a pushover to her), and of course the young son copies his sister's example because he was too young to know any better. Then it all eventually became a habit.
Some people just need a scapegoat, someone inferior to them so that they can believe they're not the trash they really are. That's that man's problem. He's quite broken and it's beyond your ability and responsibility to fix him. It's not within your mom's ability either, considering she approaches the situation so passively. The only reason she's in this situation now is because she's accepted it. Since she's been with him that long, she probably isn't familiar with being treated right.
NOTE: When you two leave tht place, be sure to file restraining orders on that girl and her father. I have a feeling he may get more depressed/hysterical and the girl will blame it on the two of you and try to retaliate.