Staying tight down there?

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer I was going to point that out, Greekchick, but hadn't wrapped my mind around it yet. :/ Between the perfect boobies in playboy, and the airbrushed tummies and lifted tushes and smoothed over triceps, it's not surprising that the examples young women have in relation to what's 'normal' is anything but normal.

Thats ok. We'll just all agree to not sleep with guys who don't have a Peter North down there. Or if it curves a little, and isn't perfectly strait, we'll tell them no. And if they don't have chiseled abs and pecs and the perfect body we'll make sure were turned off. Guys have just as many, "perfect" body images all over the media as women do. And if anything, are starting (it's still worse for women though) to be held to similar body image standards in the media as women are. Guys get airbrushed too.

In all seriousness though... The amount of guys out there who are that influenced by porn to the point where they won't get with a woman because she doesn't have a designer Play Boy snatch has got to be pretty small. And would you really want to get with him anyways? How many "perfect" cocks have any of us seen? I have been impressed before, but I know I can't be the only one who has been let down when I saw what he had in comparison to the rest of him lol. I think the difference is, is that as a woman, I'm not about to tell him that I don't want to date/sleep/whatever because his cock doesn't measure up (if the sex is that bad, thats different). But I'm going to at least give him a chance.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by GreekChick That and screaming during sex. Silence can be golden.

Screaming can be fun though lol. Maybe I'm different but I like making noise, maybe not porn star noise (who does that anyways LOL), but i'm not about to lie there being silent. That would just feel wierd to me. It's like when a guy is quiet, I end up wondering if what I'm doing is working for him. I would think he would feel the same way if I was just lying there not making any noises.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by Ms.Amaranthine One last thing, am I the only person that cringes at the word vagina? Ugh. It's awful sounding.

Haha... That totally reminded me of the Vagina Monologues.

 

[GreekChick]

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Originally Posted by Raerae Screaming can be fun though lol. Maybe I'm different but I like making noise, maybe not porn star noise (who does that anyways LOL), but i'm not about to lie there being silent. That would just feel wierd to me. It's like when a guy is quiet, I end up wondering if what I'm doing is working for him. I would think he would feel the same way if I was just lying there not making any noises.

Screaming is fun, but I'm talking about the guy who's constantly asking you to moan really loud, and talk dirty during the sex, when all you want to do is just enjoy it. It's tough to have an orgasm when you're trying to find the next dirty thing to say to him, and all you want to do is be yourself, and focus on the movement. It's natural to moan during sex, but some men just don't leave you alone when it comes to acting like a pornstar.

 

[Raerae]

haha yeh... thats true lol... now all I'm thinking about is him saying, "louder baby! louder!" LOL!!!

 

[CantAffordMAC]

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Originally Posted by Ms.Amaranthine You are correct! While the look of the vagina will change, especially if you had to have an episiotomy (where they cut the perineum to prevent tears), the internal aspect of it will return to normal after roughly six months. I'm a year post-partum and as far as I can tell, all is well. ALSO!, the biggest change that comes with vaginal birth is that sex is a million times better. I'm not so sure of the science, but I have read it repeatedly that it makes you more sensitive. The sex I've had after having my daughter has been so much better that I don't know how I ever enjoyed it before. So, I believe it. There are other plusses to having a vaginal birth than just the experience. As for me, I can't tell if kegels are effective. I know I'm doing them right and have done them for years.. but, I just don't know if it makes any sort of real difference. I can't notice. My boyfriend might, but I can't tell. Ben Wa balls can be used to help with pelvic floor exercises. They've been used for centuries by other cultures for that very reason. They say the way to tell if you're doing them right is to try to stop yourself when you go pee. The same way you do that is how you do kegels. You should be feeling it inside the vagina, not in the bottom. One last thing, am I the only person that cringes at the word vagina? Ugh. It's awful sounding.

I do stop myself when I pee, so I'm sure I'm moving the rght muscles. I just don't think its workin...just like you said. I can feel them move when I exercise them, but when I try to do them on my boyfriend he doesn't feel anything. I guess I should just ask a doctor, because you're the only one that responded lol.

BTW, I hate the word vagina. I just use it on here because I don't want to be vulgar (I don't call it a garden, or ladybits, I just call it pussy) lol

 

[CantAffordMAC]

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Originally Posted by Raerae Screaming can be fun though lol. Maybe I'm different but I like making noise, maybe not porn star noise (who does that anyways LOL), but i'm not about to lie there being silent. That would just feel wierd to me. It's like when a guy is quiet, I end up wondering if what I'm doing is working for him. I would think he would feel the same way if I was just lying there not making any noises.

I'm very vocal in bed. Screaming, moaning, groaning, talking dirty...I do it all. and I don't stop unless I'm havin one of those speechless moments where it feels too good for me to even think straight.

I think "Oh my God" is my most used phrase during sex lol

 

[Shimmer]

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Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC I do stop myself when I pee, so I'm sure I'm moving the rght muscles. I just don't think its workin...just like you said. I can feel them move when I exercise them, but when I try to do them on my boyfriend he doesn't feel anything. I guess I should just ask a doctor, because you're the only one that responded lol. BTW, I hate the word vagina. I just use it on here because I don't want to be vulgar (I don't call it a garden, or ladybits, I just call it pussy) lol

Slide a finger or two in and do the kegels. As you strengthen the pelvic floor muscles you'll feel it tighten up with every contraction.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer Slide a finger or two in and do the kegels. As you strengthen the pelvic floor muscles you'll feel it tighten up with every contraction.

I'd probably stop doing kegals at that point, and move on to something else... LOL

 

[NutMeg]

Well if you're already in the area... Why not?

 

[CantAffordMAC]

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Originally Posted by Raerae I'd probably stop doing kegals at that point, and move on to something else... LOL

Its funny because I hate fingering myself. I'll use a vibrator in a heartbeat but I won't finger myself. it doesn't feel good to me. I just really hate doing it. But when my boyfriend is doing it its like, the best feeling in the world. I just don't like doing it to myself lol

 

[thestarsfall]

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Originally Posted by AppleDiva I am curious , do you have children?

Nope, why?

If its needing of defense then I shall say that I don't think it's wise to have surgery when it's not necessary. Especially for something that women have been doing since forever without too much difficulty.....I mean...if childbirth the natural way was really that hard you'd think there would be a lot less people on the planet

 

[xIxSkyDancerxIx]

this is such a funny thread! there are creams and stuff out there that you can put on and it'll tighten the walls for a lil bit, but its more of a quick fix? I know if you have a small vaginal opening the doctor will snip it so that it's bigger and the baby can come out easier, then stitch you back up. And some will stitch you up a little bit smaller so that you're tighter. lol.

BTW shimmer... I think you're super great lol

 

[Shimmer]

Sky:
It's called a 'daddy stitch'. I have never had an episiotomy so I'm fortunate there, but yeah...that's it.