I was 18 when I had my first son, he will be 12 in December. It was hard because his fathers ex girlfriend was also pregnant!!! Yeah, so he has a brother that is 4 months older than him. I did get married to him and I was young and dumb, I thin part of the reason I got married was to throw it in her face (ex girlfriend) since they had been together for over 5 years but were broken up at the time! Also because I thought I was in love. I did love him but I was too young.
So I graduated high school, got married a month later and moved to Reno, NV from Los Angeles because he had a job with a big company and they had recently moved to Reno. So i was there for a few months and after he had his first baby, a month after we got married, I didn't like certain things that he would do. For example, he would talk to his ex for hours at a time, she would still act like if they were together. So I left in October of 1996 and had my son December 1, 1996. He's so adorable. So I went back to Reno just to visit and the thing with his ex faded away.....but another girl came into the picture, lol. So for a while I was hurt but then got over it. Months passed and he started to change for the better and I gave him another chance. I moved to Reno again Christmas of 1997. I got pregnant with my second son and he was born September of 1998. My husband at the time started hanging around "not so good people" lol and was working two jobs and thought since he worked so much he can get to go out and blah blah blah, yeah he didn't take into consideration my full time job as a mommy also. So he basically just wanted to party with his friends. I gave him an ultimatum, I told him it's either your friends or your family. In my eyes he chose his friends! SO i called my parents up and said "Come and get me, I'm coming home." So they came and picked me up and I've been back home since May of 1999, I mean I was born and raised in Los Angeles but......
So I left took a course in Medical Assistant, finished started working and worked and took care of my kids with the support of my parents and grandmother. I don't know what I would do If I didn't have them. I'm still in school now, I should have been done already but a lot of things come up. Lately, I've been getting depressed because I sit there and think, I'm 30 and I still don't have my nursing career done. Well it's partially done, lol. But living at home still with my kids and the major support of my family help but at times I'd rather quite school and just work so my kids and I can live alone. It's hard living with your kids and parents. But I wouldn't change having my kids at all. I would change getting married and being more aggressive with my education. It's never to late for anything.
I don't believe in getting married because you're pregnant or because you think it will change him. If you are pregnant and your baby daddy is not into you having a baby, don't think that by having the baby you will keep him!! I see too many girls making this mistake.
I have a boyfriend now and he's great. My kids love him and he loves my kids, I'm happy right now except at times when I think of school lol, but other than that everything is great.
(sorry for typos or grammar issues, I don't feel like editing, lol)