revinn
Well-known member
I know that a bit of pain and discomfort is normal the first time a girl has sex, but I'm CONVINCED that my first and second times were NOT normal.
When my ex and I first tried to have sex, we used lots of lubricant and I was definitely properly .. prepared. I was SO comfortable with him, and hardly nervous at all. He was a virgin as well, and under what I hope was performance anxiety, couldn't get fully erect. Mostly, but not fully. So we tried and tried and tried, but everytime he could get it in far enough, it would feel like someone was actually ripping me in half. The next occasion that we tried, he was once again only semi-erect, and the pain was absolutely unbearable. I couldn't continue.
Now, here's the strange thing about me..when I was fourteen, I was fingered for the first time, and the guy accidently stuck his finger into my urethra. Not too far, as the slit is so small, but enough to do me a fair amount of injury. I was bruised and couldn't pee without extreme pain for weeks. I haven't been able to be fingered since, in fear that the same thing would happen.
So what do you is going on? Is something wrong with me physically that I can't have sex? It's really bothering me, and I want to be able to enjoy sex, instead of feeling like I'm going to be torn apart.
When my ex and I first tried to have sex, we used lots of lubricant and I was definitely properly .. prepared. I was SO comfortable with him, and hardly nervous at all. He was a virgin as well, and under what I hope was performance anxiety, couldn't get fully erect. Mostly, but not fully. So we tried and tried and tried, but everytime he could get it in far enough, it would feel like someone was actually ripping me in half. The next occasion that we tried, he was once again only semi-erect, and the pain was absolutely unbearable. I couldn't continue.
Now, here's the strange thing about me..when I was fourteen, I was fingered for the first time, and the guy accidently stuck his finger into my urethra. Not too far, as the slit is so small, but enough to do me a fair amount of injury. I was bruised and couldn't pee without extreme pain for weeks. I haven't been able to be fingered since, in fear that the same thing would happen.
So what do you is going on? Is something wrong with me physically that I can't have sex? It's really bothering me, and I want to be able to enjoy sex, instead of feeling like I'm going to be torn apart.