bebs
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I'm asking this here because I'm really unsure of what to do at the moment
anyways.. on with it, I've been married for a little while (about 2 and a half years) earlier last year my husbands parents fell on some hard times health wise, and they moved into the house with us.
for the first few weeks of that he was around making sure that things were fine in the house and that everything was good, then he started going out a lot more with friends at night after work hanging out until 1 - 2 in the mornings some nights, sometimes I would go with him sometimes I wouldn't.
over the last 10 months or (before 08 new years) he's been out of the house a lot more then normal and well I've been okay with it for the most part because we both have our own things as well and its mostly been good, and everything was pretty normal, he would be home by the time I was going to sleep so we could go to bed together. sex life was fine, we were talking and doing things pretty much about the same as we had in the past before we were married. (we were together for 3 years before getting married. and I've known him most of my life for almost 19 years)
As of new years he's been drinking on and off.. (this is a man who hadn't touched the stuff in over 7 years) he quit his job in early January and hasn't really been looking to much for anything at the moment, he's been doing drugs a lot more frequently. I've talked to him a few times about it, and it changed for a good while things went back to normal, he was around and more like he used to be, until about a month and a half ago when I found out I was pregnant and I told him, he took it with surprise and soon started to warm up to the idea. and then about 2 weeks after that I had a miscarriage, he was home and there for me for about a week or so and then since that point he's been distant, cold and I've hardly seen him at all. He's been at friends houses and staying there, but I don't know which ones because I've called and went there where he normally would be. when I wanted and needed to talk to him, and either they didn't see him recently or he wasn't there.
and this is just pulling me apart, I've written him letters saying just that, I've tried calling him many times and he's not answered his phone. I've only seen him once in the past 3 weeks, and he was okay but slightly distant then, he told me he would be home that night, or the next but hasn't been and that was over 2 weeks ago. and I'm at my wits end with what to.
anyways.. on with it, I've been married for a little while (about 2 and a half years) earlier last year my husbands parents fell on some hard times health wise, and they moved into the house with us.
for the first few weeks of that he was around making sure that things were fine in the house and that everything was good, then he started going out a lot more with friends at night after work hanging out until 1 - 2 in the mornings some nights, sometimes I would go with him sometimes I wouldn't.
over the last 10 months or (before 08 new years) he's been out of the house a lot more then normal and well I've been okay with it for the most part because we both have our own things as well and its mostly been good, and everything was pretty normal, he would be home by the time I was going to sleep so we could go to bed together. sex life was fine, we were talking and doing things pretty much about the same as we had in the past before we were married. (we were together for 3 years before getting married. and I've known him most of my life for almost 19 years)
As of new years he's been drinking on and off.. (this is a man who hadn't touched the stuff in over 7 years) he quit his job in early January and hasn't really been looking to much for anything at the moment, he's been doing drugs a lot more frequently. I've talked to him a few times about it, and it changed for a good while things went back to normal, he was around and more like he used to be, until about a month and a half ago when I found out I was pregnant and I told him, he took it with surprise and soon started to warm up to the idea. and then about 2 weeks after that I had a miscarriage, he was home and there for me for about a week or so and then since that point he's been distant, cold and I've hardly seen him at all. He's been at friends houses and staying there, but I don't know which ones because I've called and went there where he normally would be. when I wanted and needed to talk to him, and either they didn't see him recently or he wasn't there.
and this is just pulling me apart, I've written him letters saying just that, I've tried calling him many times and he's not answered his phone. I've only seen him once in the past 3 weeks, and he was okay but slightly distant then, he told me he would be home that night, or the next but hasn't been and that was over 2 weeks ago. and I'm at my wits end with what to.