abbyquack
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Ok to preface, my husband and I separated for 2 months up until about 3 weeks ago...HE was the one that wanted to separate, as well as the one that wanted to get back together. I learned a lot about myself through the separation, and while I knew that whatever happened, I would be okay, I did feel it was "best" to work things out with my husband. I'd already signed a lease with 2 other girl friends, but luckily my room is a studio of sorts, sharing only a kitchen with my friends. So, I have allowed my husband to live with me, as he promised that he'd never not want to be with me ever again (after a very hot n' cold relationship of 4 years where he has basically told me many times that I was not living up to his expectations, he was not happy ,he loved me but didn't know if he was in love with me, etc).
Well...The first week back together (plus a couple weeks of phone relationship) was amazing, he was so genuine and I really felt he had changed. I looked forward to this new leaf.
But, about a week into it, I went to my doctor to get the Depo shot which I had been off of for about 3 months, and I got it so he didn't have to feel the discomfort of condoms. Well, it made me VERY crazy for about a week, in which I was a massive wreck. I think it caused him to pull away a little because I was just so emotional and angry, but I tried convincing him that it was just the shot, and he was patient but since then, he has not been as interested in me. I have "stabilized", so I am not crazy anymore, but he is just not himself. He doesn't ask for sex (I ask and he is ok but not eager), he is nice but does not go out of his way to show me that I am important. It is now 3am and he is still out with his friends, not returning my calls, and he did this last week where he hung out with my roommate and her visiting friend until 4am, until I finally intervened by going upstairs and joining the convo so he would come back to our place. I had even sent him a text earlier in the evening and he ignored it, even though his phone was obviously by his side.
Ok...so, am I being messed around? I feel like yes, I am, and if so, I won't tolerate it. But i need others' opinions because I don't want to be an overreacter. I called him almost 2 hours ago to ask that he come home (bc it was almost 2am) and he replied that he would come home in a bit. But it is now 2 hours later and I have tried calling with no response. I'm so bugged that my HUSBAND would act like a juvenile and not respond to his wife, am I wrong? I mean at least respond to your wife's calls, no?
Anyways am I missing a totally obvious sign? What do you think, am I overreacting?
Well...The first week back together (plus a couple weeks of phone relationship) was amazing, he was so genuine and I really felt he had changed. I looked forward to this new leaf.
But, about a week into it, I went to my doctor to get the Depo shot which I had been off of for about 3 months, and I got it so he didn't have to feel the discomfort of condoms. Well, it made me VERY crazy for about a week, in which I was a massive wreck. I think it caused him to pull away a little because I was just so emotional and angry, but I tried convincing him that it was just the shot, and he was patient but since then, he has not been as interested in me. I have "stabilized", so I am not crazy anymore, but he is just not himself. He doesn't ask for sex (I ask and he is ok but not eager), he is nice but does not go out of his way to show me that I am important. It is now 3am and he is still out with his friends, not returning my calls, and he did this last week where he hung out with my roommate and her visiting friend until 4am, until I finally intervened by going upstairs and joining the convo so he would come back to our place. I had even sent him a text earlier in the evening and he ignored it, even though his phone was obviously by his side.
Ok...so, am I being messed around? I feel like yes, I am, and if so, I won't tolerate it. But i need others' opinions because I don't want to be an overreacter. I called him almost 2 hours ago to ask that he come home (bc it was almost 2am) and he replied that he would come home in a bit. But it is now 2 hours later and I have tried calling with no response. I'm so bugged that my HUSBAND would act like a juvenile and not respond to his wife, am I wrong? I mean at least respond to your wife's calls, no?
Anyways am I missing a totally obvious sign? What do you think, am I overreacting?