ellesk
Well-known member
I've been lurking on Specktra for quite some time now, without ever actually posting - and isn't it odd that this is the thread that draws me out of lurkerdom?
Perhaps it's not my place to say anything, but I feel as though I've witnessed enough of this forum to be able to make an informed reply. That, and something about this thread just really bothers me...
The OP has made a lot of contradictory statements... and even the final "clarification" only reiterated what was already (somewhat rudely) stated. From what I have gathered, it seems to me that the complaint is, essentially, that you have not gotten a satisfactory amount of compliments on what you percieve to be your above-average looks. Yet, what you don't want people commenting on are things they think could be improved upon, because that is not your "look" - even though you yourself have said that you critique other people's looks (which I have noticed) and, when they choose to ignore your critique, you choose to stop commenting. (Perhaps something similar is occuring here?)
Yes, I understand the fact that we are only human... that we all enjoy hearing praise about our makeup skills and compliments about the way we look. But it's ludicrous to come on here expecting that every single person will comment on your looks only to tell you how divine you are. And then, to come up with inane reasons as to why your looks aren't as popular as others (ie. the eyebrows & eyeliner issue) just seems downright petty. The more "popular" posters (and I put that in quotes because, honestly!, this is only an internet forum) have probably become popular because people admire their makeup artistry... not because they wear black eyeliner. And the only reason people are making these same suggestions is because these things do improve one's appearance. Defined eyebrows frame the face and black eyeliner gives the appearance of a thicker lashline and fuller eyelashes, which are all natural enhancements. What's more, black eyeliner can be worn in so many different ways - you can make it as thin or as thick as you like.
I always thought your choices of color were lovely, and being a Renaissance Festival fanatic myself, I thought your fantasy looks were quite cool as well. But, whatever your intentions may have been, this post certainly soured my perception... because it ultimately came across as incredibly condescending.
Perhaps it's not my place to say anything, but I feel as though I've witnessed enough of this forum to be able to make an informed reply. That, and something about this thread just really bothers me...
The OP has made a lot of contradictory statements... and even the final "clarification" only reiterated what was already (somewhat rudely) stated. From what I have gathered, it seems to me that the complaint is, essentially, that you have not gotten a satisfactory amount of compliments on what you percieve to be your above-average looks. Yet, what you don't want people commenting on are things they think could be improved upon, because that is not your "look" - even though you yourself have said that you critique other people's looks (which I have noticed) and, when they choose to ignore your critique, you choose to stop commenting. (Perhaps something similar is occuring here?)
Yes, I understand the fact that we are only human... that we all enjoy hearing praise about our makeup skills and compliments about the way we look. But it's ludicrous to come on here expecting that every single person will comment on your looks only to tell you how divine you are. And then, to come up with inane reasons as to why your looks aren't as popular as others (ie. the eyebrows & eyeliner issue) just seems downright petty. The more "popular" posters (and I put that in quotes because, honestly!, this is only an internet forum) have probably become popular because people admire their makeup artistry... not because they wear black eyeliner. And the only reason people are making these same suggestions is because these things do improve one's appearance. Defined eyebrows frame the face and black eyeliner gives the appearance of a thicker lashline and fuller eyelashes, which are all natural enhancements. What's more, black eyeliner can be worn in so many different ways - you can make it as thin or as thick as you like.
I always thought your choices of color were lovely, and being a Renaissance Festival fanatic myself, I thought your fantasy looks were quite cool as well. But, whatever your intentions may have been, this post certainly soured my perception... because it ultimately came across as incredibly condescending.